15/05/2023
Today is Mother's Day, and I have spent my entire day alone inside either an airport or an airplane. I won't get home until midnight tonight, which means I won't see my kids at all today.
I miss them horribly and have spent the last several days on vacation without them.
Selfish, I know.
At least, I hope they see it that way.
Here's the thing: I know I'm a better mom to my children when I make conscious choices to protect my own sanity by doing things just for me.
My ultimate goal is to teach them the importance of doing things for yourself and making choices on occasion that benefit your own mental health.
They may not entirely see it now, but I'm hoping when they look back on who their mom was, they will see someone who cared enough to give them a better version of herself. A mom who was there for them in every essential way 99% of the time but who, on occasion, made choices to put herself and her own individual needs ahead of her kids'.
Not all the time. But sometimes.
So many moms I know lose themselves entirely in the process of raising a family. Everyone else comes first in her life until she has run herself ragged and is an angry, resentful shell of herself.
But guess what? There are no motherhood trophies for being the best martyr. No victory sashes for making the most sacrifices at the cost of your own wellbeing.
My thing is hopping on a plane. But putting yourself first as a mother can also be booking a babysitter on a Saturday night and going out for dinner with a friend. Or maybe it's dropping your kiddos off with a relative so you can go for a run. Or join a bowling league. Whatever your thing is.
Today is just one day. And my kids and I will celebrate Mother's Day tomorrow instead. But today, Mom is traveling. She did a thing for herself because this is something that makes her content and a much better mom to her kids when she doesn't feel entirely depleted.
Even if that thing happens to fall directly on Mother's Day.
Which is kinda the best way to celebrate it, dontcha think?