17/07/2026
My client sent me this message, and it stayed with me.
"The last of the Ten Commandments says not to desire anything that belongs to another. I believe that if we saw everything a person has, the things they have to go through, the burdens they carry, we would always choose our own lot in life over another's. Who is happy? One who is happy with one's lot."
The more I reflected on it, the more it resonated with me.
The Tenth Commandment is unique because, unlike the others, it doesn't just address our actions, it speaks directly to our hearts. Coveting isn't simply admiring what someone else has. It's longing for their life, believing that if only we had what they have, we'd finally be happy.
What's even more interesting is that sometimes we find ourselves envying something that was never even our dream to begin with. We see someone else's success, lifestyle, relationship, or possessions, and suddenly we want them. Not because they align with our own calling, but because we've only seen a fraction of their reality. A carefully curated highlight reel can make us question a life we were once perfectly content with.
But here's something we rarely consider.
What if receiving someone else's life also meant inheriting everything that comes with it? Their fears. Their disappointments. Their private struggles. Their health challenges. Their family burdens. Their regrets. Their responsibilities.
Would we still want to trade places?
The truth is most of us only see the highlight reel of another person's life. We see the promotions, the beautiful homes, the successful businesses, the happy families, the vacations, and the smiles.
What we don't see are the sleepless nights, the difficult decisions, the silent prayers, the sacrifices, the heartbreaks, and the battles fought behind closed doors.
We compare our behind-the-scenes with someone else's best moments, and that's never a fair comparison.
"Who is happy? One who is happy with one's lot."
To me, that doesn't mean we stop dreaming or striving to become better. It means we stop believing that our happiness is hidden in someone else's life.
Contentment isn't complacency. It's gratitude.
It's waking up each day and recognizing that while my life isn't perfect, it's mine. With blessings, lessons, and purpose.
When we stop wishing for someone else's story, we become free to fully live our own.
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