08/18/2026
Have you ever left a networking event thinking:
“I met the right people, but I don’t think I explained what I do very well”?
I have.
You can rewrite your LinkedIn headline, update your website, and practice an introduction that sounds perfect in your head.
But you will not know whether your message connects until you use it with real people.
Here are 4 things 15 years of building my personal brand taught me:
1. You need more repetitions, not one perfect introduction.
Networking events gave me opportunities to explain my work repeatedly.
Every follow-up question helped me notice where people became interested, where they became confused, and what they remembered later.
You build confidence in your message by using it.
2. Test your message with people outside your industry.
People in your field already understand the language and context.
Someone outside your industry will quickly show you what requires too much explanation.
If they cannot understand the basic value, your message may still depend too heavily on insider knowledge.
3. Test it with people inside your industry too.
A message can be understandable without being relevant.
The people you want to reach should be able to recognize the problem, understand why your perspective matters, and see where your work fits into their priorities.
You need both: Comprehension from outsiders and connection from insiders.
4. Do not become so attached to your message that it cannot introduce you to your next opportunity.
New conversations and rooms showed me parts of my experience that other people valued before I knew how to communicate them.
If I had stayed attached to one title or one version of what I did, I might have missed opportunities that did not fit the way I originally described myself.
Your message should explain your value today without trapping you inside an older version of your work.
Your messaging is not only what appears in your bio.
It shapes how you introduce yourself, create content, build relationships, recognize opportunities, and help other people understand where you could fit.
You do not think your way into a clear message. You communicate your way into one.