10/17/2026
When people describe this to me, it's almost never the rejection.
It's the nothing.
You send it. You tailored it. You followed up like you were supposed to. And what comes back is just absence.
Your brain can't leave a blank alone, so it fills it in. And it reaches for the worst thing available, which is usually some version of maybe it's me.
Here's what I can tell you from the other side.
That silence isn't feedback.
It feels like feedback. It shows up exactly where feedback should be. But it's what happens when a small team gets hundreds of applications and has an afternoon to sort them.
There's nothing coded in it. Nothing to decode. It's just a system at capacity not making a sound.
So please stop grading yourself on it.
You can't get better against a blank. You can only get better against something real, and this isn't real information about you.
P.S. What have you been telling yourself about the silence?