Cultivate You Coaching

05/13/2026

A coaching client shared something with me recently that I think many of us experience without even realizing it.

Other people’s opinions.
Their fears.
Their expectations.
Their stress.

Over time, it can start to feel like we’re carrying emotional weight that was never ours to hold.

Years ago during my coach training, a mentor shared a visual I still come back to often: the energetic backpack.

When someone we love is struggling, it’s easy to immediately pick up their backpack alongside our own. But taking on someone else’s emotional state doesn’t actually help them. It often just leaves two overwhelmed people instead of one grounded person capable of offering support.

That lesson stayed with me so deeply that I eventually made stickers with the question:

“Is this my energy to carry?”

A small reminder that compassion and absorption are not the same thing.

I wrote more about this reflection, emotional boundaries, and the practice of observing without absorbing in my latest piece on Substack. https://open.substack.com/pub/cultivateyoucoach/p/when-someone-drops-their-energy-at?r=2q8yli&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

🧐 What changes when we learn to stay present without carrying what was never ours to hold?

05/12/2026

The people who benefit most from coaching aren’t the people with perfect plans.

They’re the people willing to pause long enough to ask:
What’s really going on here?
What do I want?
How do I want to lead?
Who am I becoming?

If you’re in an emerging season of leadership and want support navigating it with more clarity, confidence, and self-trust, my 1:1 coaching sessions are designed for exactly that.

You bring the willingness.
We’ll work from there.

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05/08/2026

If you’re an emerging leader navigating growth, visibility, hard conversations, or the quiet feeling that you’re capable of more but unsure how to access it, coaching can help you create clarity instead of carrying it all alone.

My clients often tell me they leave sessions feeling clearer, calmer, more grounded, and more confident in how they move forward.

You don’t need to have everything figured out before you begin.
You just need to be willing to show up honestly.

If that’s where you are, I’d love to support you.

Explore 1:1 coaching at cultivateyou.coach

04/28/2026

Ever feel like you’re stuck on a loop?

We all have a "mental playlist" that runs in the background. Sometimes it’s a track of self-doubt; other times, it’s a rhythm of pure momentum. But here’s the thing: you aren't just the listener. You’re the curator.

Growing up in the era of burnt CDs and hand-written liner notes, I learned that music is the ultimate language for the things we carry. It’s a release valve. It’s a decoder.

In my latest article, "The Frequency of Becoming," I’m merging the art of the mixtape with the science of Energy Leadership. We’re looking at 7 iconic female artists to help you identify exactly where your energy is landing today.

If you’re ready to flip the tape and start a new side, this one is for you. Check out the article here: https://open.substack.com/pub/cultivateyoucoach/p/the-frequency-of-becoming?r=2q8yli&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

04/23/2026

Early in my career, I made a move that still surprises me: I walked into the President’s office of a manufacturing company and asked for a new title so I wouldn't end up as someone's secretary.

My title was changed.
WITH the added bonus of a pay increase.

But looking back, I realize I wasn't being exceptionally brave. I was just unaware of the rules. When we don't know the "proper" channels or the "expected" hierarchy, we go straight to the solution. We focus on the objective rather than the protocol.

🤔 My challenge to you today: If you forgot the "proper" way to do things for five minutes, what is the straightest line toward the goal you’re chasing?

I’m diving deeper into the "Advantage of Not Knowing the Rules" in my latest Substack post. Check it out here:
https://cultivateyoucoach.substack.com/p/the-advantage-of-not-knowing-the

04/22/2026

In my coaching practice, Cultivate You, I often talk about what it takes to sustain growth. We focus on internal shifts, self-trust, and intentionality.

But today, on Earth Day, I’m reminded that we cannot be truly "cultivated" in a vacuum. The theme for 2026 is “Our Power, Our Planet,” and it’s a call to move from awareness to action.

Just as we look at the habits that shape our lives, we have the power to look at the habits that shape our world.

🌍 It’s in the intentional choices of who we buy from.
🌍 It’s in the action we take toward protecting our local communities.
🌍 Progress happens when we stop waiting for permission and start using the power we already have.

How are you using your power for good today?

04/07/2026

You wouldn’t expect an elite athlete to reach the Olympics without a coach. So why do we expect corporate leaders to reach their peak without one?

The data is clear: Training alone increases productivity by 22%. Add coaching, and that number jumps to 88%.

I’ve found that many high-performers want coaching but hesitate to ask their company to foot the bill. They feel like it’s a "perk" rather than a performance strategy.

In my latest Substack for Cultivate You, I’m breaking down exactly how to ask for sponsorship, including:
✅ How to prove the ROI to your boss.
✅ Why "confidentiality" is a non-negotiable (even if they pay!).
✅ The exact words to use in your request.

Stop paying for your own evolution. Your growth is a company asset, let's treat it like one.

Read the full guide here: https://open.substack.com/pub/cultivateyoucoach/p/moving-from-reaction-to-action?r=2q8yli&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

04/03/2026

04/02/2026

We often mistake rumination for progress.

I’ve noticed a pattern in my coaching practice: the people who see the most explosive growth aren’t necessarily the ones with the best goals or the biggest budgets.

They are the ones who have made a courageous choice: They’ve stopped shortcutting their own truth.

In our heads, we use a kind of mental shorthand. We skip the messy parts of our logic and gloss over the fears we aren't ready to face. We think we’ve "thought it through," but we haven't actually witnessed the truth.

In my latest Substack post, I explore:

Why "inner knowing" requires an audience.

The magic of finishing sentences out loud.

What it actually means to be "ready" for coaching.

Thinking is a start. Being witnessed is a breakthrough.

https://open.substack.com/pub/cultivateyoucoach/p/why-thinking-isnt-enough?r=2q8yli&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

03/28/2026

These are the final days to book a Cultivating Clarity Session at the spring rate.

If you have been feeling the pull to slow down, think things through, and reconnect with your own sense of direction, this session creates space for exactly that.

We spend ninety minutes exploring what is shifting in your life, what decisions may be waiting for attention, and how to move forward with greater self trust.

If you have been craving space to reflect and think clearly about what comes next, this might be the right moment.

https://cultivateyou.coach/spring-special

03/24/2026

Many people think transitions are about changing external circumstances.

Changing jobs. Changing roles. Changing direction.

But the most meaningful transitions usually begin much earlier, beneath the surface.

Your perspective shifts.
Your priorities evolve.
Your sense of what matters becomes clearer.

Long before anything changes outwardly, something inside you has already begun to move.

This time of year always reminds me of that process. In early spring, much of the work of growth is happening where we cannot see it yet. Seeds are planted before anything breaks through the soil.

The same is true in our own lives. The visible change often comes later.

So a question I like to sit with this time of year is simple.

What seeds are you planting right now?

Not just in your work, but in how you spend your energy, where you place your attention, and what you are choosing to nurture.

Transitions are not only about what we are leaving behind. They are also about what we are quietly beginning.