02/11/2025
Hollywood assistants don't make much money, so I'd occasionally work events and dinner parties.
One evening, as I set up for a dinner party at a private residence, an aspiring young actress was asking a successful talent manager ("TM") for career advice. She wanted to option some material but didn't know any producers.
Finally, the talent manager stops.
TM: Do you know how you become a producer?
ACTRESS: What, you have to sleep with someone?
I almost dropped the dishes I was carrying to the table.
My former corporate world brain had been blown so many times in the previous year I thought I was numb to the craziness of the entertainment business.
But this answer caught me off guard.
It was the way the actress proposed her question. It was more of a resigned statement than a hypothetical ask.
Anywhere else in the world, this beautiful young woman's life would arguably be "comfortable," at the very least. But not in LA. Not as an actress.
TM: Nope. You just have to say, "I'm a producer."
The actress was underwhelmed. She thought he was blowing her off.
But he wasn't.
His answer, while comical and cynical, turned out to be the most accurate depiction of real life I learned during my time in Hollywood.
It totally changed how I viewed the world. I came to view all narratives through positioning and framing.
As hokey as it sounds, sometimes you have to speak your identity into existence.
THE TAKEAWAY:
The first step you have to take when building your brand - business or personal - is to DECLARE what you are for all the world to hear.
Then you have to believe it.
Then you have to act on it.
But repeating that declaration early and often is the key. It puts your identity into the ether and helps others feed the narrative machine for you.
If you don't believe it, no one else will.
And, if you're waiting for the marketplace to define you, remember: you might not like what it has to say.
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