19/10/2025
Yan Ang Tatay...
Studies have revealed that children who have a secure attachment to their fathers are 2X less likely to face depression as teens. This is not because fathers love better or more than mothers, but because their love works differently in a child.
Fathers are more prone to engage in physically stimulating and unpredictable forms of play, which helps children learn to be more excited and independent.
A father’s love is often associated with discipline, fairness and rules, teaching children the consequences of actions and promoting mastery.
Fathers also often encourage independence and resilience by preparing children for the challenges and competition of the outside world setting them up for success when they become teenagers and start venturing out on their own.
Alternatively, a mother’s love is frequently described as unconditional, providing a foundation of emotional security and acceptance that children can rely on.
Mothers also often provide a soothing, predictable and safe base for their children, fostering a sense of security and compassion.
Mothers are also more likely to focus on sympathy, help and relationships, leading to a supportive and responsive approach to caregiving.
The different approaches from mothers and fathers create a “yin and yang” effect, providing a healthy balance of comfort, stimulation, support and discipline.
This complementary parenting provides children with varied ways to behave, think and understand the world, which can lead to a more comprehensive development.
Essentially, a mother’s love offers a soft place to land and emotional security, while a father’s love prepares a child to navigate the outside world and achieve mastery.
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