29/04/2025
I saw a video yesterday that a mom took of her 10-year-old just playing with her stuffed animals and using her imagination. She talked about how her daughter loved to color, ride her bike, and do "kid things".
And it broke me.
Because this society that we have cultivated is in a hurry to grow our kids up. They are in a hurry for them to be miniature versions of adults and in doing so are robbing them of this crucial time in their lives. It is a time for play and exploration and being outdoors in nature and in spending rainy days making pillow forts or playing board games or putting on a puppet show.
My middle schooler does not have a phone. What does she need it for? She is welcome to use my phone to invite a friend over or to talk.
My middle schooler does not have her own tablet or iPad. What does she need it for? She can use mine during a planned time to play her games--mostly educational.
These boundaries are allowing her to want to use her imagination and play more. She isn't drawn to the technology as much, and she shouldn't feel the need to have devices to fit in.
If I'm being honest, I wish we would go backwards with tech. I wish we didn't rely on our devices so much. I wish our children saw us doing anything else but sit on our phones zoned out like zombies. It isn't fair to them--life is for living, not for checking out.
And trust me--you'll miss these years that you wasted with your face glued to a screen.
Take the time to give your children the childhood they deserve. It is so fleeting--I blinked, and my oldest turns 18 this year. And I keep thinking--I could have done more with you/for you/to allow you to grow up slower.
Go on a walk.
Play ball in the yard.
Run through sprinklers and jump in puddles.
Save the mocktails, beauty routines, social media exposure, and tech overload for a time when their brains can properly understand them and make their own decisions on how they want them to impact their lives
Because right now, they just need to delight in a simpler life.
Right now they need to be children.