13/08/2020
When we give like this, it is unfulfilling because it increases our expectation to get back the equivalent to what has been given. It translates to us paying for loyalty, respect, love, behavior, attitude, or reciprocity.
It's healthy for them to receive what you give but you become unhealthy in what should have been a happy and sacrificial act.
When you give and actively expect something back from who it was given, you are emotionally still holding in your hands what has been given. You have given the cake but you still have it.
You might say, "I don't expect them to pay me back". I say this every once in a while but deep down somewhere usually hard to reach, I do not really expect them to "buy"or repay me in cash or material possessions, but I might still expect them to pay me with reverence.
Dirty right? Sometimes our human nature is creepy but it's important to identify these feelings and know how best to deal with them.
The thing is, respect gained by mere "giving for reverence" (That's what I call it now) is extremely superficial. It will always keep you "trying" to do more when the emotions that the receiver feels fades away. I mean, we all know - "Human wants are unlimited".
The healthy way to be respected is to respect yourself and respect others. People shouldn't respect you because they depend on you for things, people should respect you because they value your character. Your true and honest character.
Always remember that it's not about what you give, it's about who you are. Whoever qualifies you by what you give them needs your prayers and maybe a reasonable amount of space.
Agree or disagree?
