18/06/2026
Where I come from , first daughters are the family burden bearers ,🤔 still wondering if this is a law signed by nature or is this just an African carved mentality?🤷
Most times no matter how much they tried they may end up not evolving to learn how to take care of themselves and I just can't stop asking myself why?
Did nature really choose their fate as "sacrificial lamb" for their families? because it's so unfair seeing how much burden they bear with no trophy attached, most times the same family they shouldered neglect and look down on them afterwards .
my people always shower them with praises like "Ada ukwu ", "Ada Ka ibeya" "Ada na eri ukwu anu" and more and yet no single ceremony is held to celebrate their immersed contribution to their families and communities, back then u will agree with me that parents sees giving birth as a competition without putting their financial capabilities to mind one family can have 9_12kids even when having a male child is not the issue, and the Ada of the house is meant to suffer the consequences of "helping" the parents to give her siblings a future leaving hers behind which automatically forge her to be a brutal survivor warrior injured deeply beyond treatment unknown to her still carrying on.🤦
my people says "adighi amu aka ekpe na nka" meaning u don't learn how to use left hand at old age but first daughters tries to break it because is at their older age they start picking up their piece and it takes Grace and courage to gather enough pieces of themselves together to stay put because I know no first daughter who undergoes this type of burden is complete. most times I thank God for my own Adanne, she was raised first to raise us, but the gap is still there, get her expensive thing today just to appreciate her now that life is fair and u will end up receiving a more than an hour lecture on how not to spend any how just to feel made. don't get me wrong , she's educated, beautiful and happily married.
