03/11/2019
A business doesn't stop running because you're exhausted. Or does it?⠀
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This may be early — but it's relevant every day.⠀
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April is Stress Awareness Month and I'm here to tell you that this past weekend seriously kicked my ass. I lost one of the best souls I've encountered in this life, and while I mourn this loss I realized I felt guilty for taking a mental health day. Or two... I let the to-do list sit there.⠀
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That guilt just compounded the stress.⠀
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As someone who advocates for others to set their boundaries, to find limits in the chaos, I was proud of myself to sticking to it -- guilt or not. As a do-er, the act of sitting with things is difficult but it must be done.⠀
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The thing about grief is you have to look at it, respect it, and feel — not shove it down in a box. Trust me, I've tried.⠀
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We are givers and we HAVE to set limits, because other people will not do that for us. The client, to do list, phone call — whatever it is, it'll all be there tomorrow for you to tackle. So if your body is telling you to stop, and sit with your feelings, then do it. Sometimes we thrive by taking a step back.⠀
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It's sunny today in the Bay, and I'm sitting in it — feeling it on my skin, the sounds of the streets, and people laughing outside. My weight of it all feels heavy in my chest but I sit with it anyway, going down that to-do list at my own pace. This is how we heal.⠀
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