11/08/2026
STYLE TREND TUESDAY
One of the things I hear from women I work with, particularly as they move through their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond, is that they can slowly begin to feel invisible.
Not necessarily because other people don't see them, but because they no longer quite recognise the woman they're seeing themselves.
There can be so many reasons for this.
Leaving behind our youth, children growing up and leaving home, weight gain, menopause, a significant life-changing surgery, divorce, loss of income, changing careers, retirement or other major life transitions can all affect the way we see ourselves.
And sometimes this is magnified when we open our wardrobe.
The clothes that once fitted beautifully no longer fit. Pieces we once loved can suddenly feel completely wrong. We try things on and nothing seems to suit, nothing feels quite "us" and we wonder where that confident, stylish woman we used to know has gone.
It's very easy to start feeling old, unseen, insignificant, less appealing or somehow less modern and stylish in our own eyes.
This is where I believe having your own personal stylist can be worth its weight in gold.
Not because I/we need to "fix" you, make you look younger or turn you into somebody you're not. Quite the opposite.
It's about recognizing that you're moving through a new chapter of your life and giving yourself permission to discover what works beautifully for you now.
Some of these changes can be incredibly difficult to accept, particularly when they involve our physicality. The clothes hanging in our wardrobe can sometimes feel like a reminder of where we once were.
Adapting to the "new you" can take time, and that's perfectly okay.
This is where I love making small, exciting and positive changes.
1. Perhaps it's discovering your colour direction and suddenly seeing yourself glow in a new signature colour.
2. Perhaps it's finding one fabulous new garment that highlights something you love about yourself – your beautiful legs, gorgeous calves, lovely décolletage, amazing hair or stunning eyes.
3. Maybe it's a new pair of glasses with a little pizzazz that makes you feel fabulous every time you put them on.
4. Or finally finding that perfect pair of jeans that fit beautifully and give you that wonderful "Oh... I look good!" feeling.
5. Or maybe you wander into your favourite op shop and discover a designer piece in your colour direction, perfectly suited to your personality style and fitting so beautifully that you don't want to take it off!
These may sound like small things, but they aren't.
They're small steps towards seeing and reflecting you as you are now.
And when you begin to dress the woman, you are today, rather than continually trying to recreate the woman you were, something quite wonderful can happen.
You start to feel more confident, more visible & more like yourself.
And perhaps most importantly... you start looking forward to getting dressed again.