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Faye Louise Hughes, 8/50 Bondi Road, Bondi Junction (2026)

08/03/2024

Happy International Women’s day!!

I want to take a moment to celebrate the women in the sobriety world, all the women who are going against the norm of society where drinking is being shown as the normal thing to do:

founder of

My Mum
My best friend
My good friend

You are all incredible! Thank you for showing up everyday as you ❤️

And I want to celebrate anyone who is sober curious or sober because it’s such an incredible thing!

When we put our minds to things we can make anything happen 🧠✨

08/03/2024

Happy International Women’s day!!

I want to take a moment to celebrate the women in the sobriety world, all the women who are going against the norm of society where drinking is being shown as the normal thing to do:

founder of

My Mum
My best friend
My good friend

You are all incredible! Thank you for showing up everyday as you ❤️

And I want to celebrate anyone who is sober curious or sober because it’s such an incredible thing!

When we put our minds to things we can make anything happen 🧠✨

06/03/2024

I no longer choose Happy Hour I choose Happy-Ever-After 🧚✨

In the past, I would organise my holidays around happy hour, To make sure I get the most out of it! I thought I was being money savvy 🙈😂 and that I was my happiest on holiday at Happy Hour!

But as the drinks flowed, so did the regrets (more in this in my latest blog) 💻

Turns happiness shouldn’t be confined to a two-hour window of discounted drinks. So I made a choice to remove alcohol ❌🍷, and nowadays, instead of choosing Happy Hour, I choose a happy holiday and happy-ever-after.

Now my holidays look like:

🌅 I wake up early, feeling fresh, embracing the serenity of moments like sitting outside with a coffee instead of feeling sorry for myself winging in bed.

🔋 I have energy and a reliable good mood to do things instead of not knowing what excruciating hangover I would be in for.

👙 I soak up the sunshine on the beach, closing my eyes, feeling at peace with the world, feeling the warm sun on my skin instead of rushing off because the heat is too much to handle.

🍴 I am adventurous and open to trying new things on the menu instead of feeling hungover and craving pizza (I still ate pizza this holiday, just not every day).

📖 I enjoy reading my book instead of having a banging headache from the alcohol and being unable to read.

👩‍❤️‍👨 I connect deeply with Joe and have meaningful conversations instead of being too hot and agitated to be close and sitting in silence because I’m too poorly to talk.

🌿 I immerse myself in nature, in awe at its beauty, without the constant distraction of ‘When will I have my next drink?’ Or ‘What drink will soothe this hangover?’ Or ‘How many drinks will I have today?’

I deserve more than just a life filled with hangovers and regrets. I deserve a life filled with joy, adventure, and genuine connection. I’m made for so much more 🏔️

Check out my latest blog for a few journal prompts to reflect on your drinking holidays 🏖️

04/03/2024

When I decided to give up alcohol, I wondered how I was going to have the ‘difficult’ conversations with Joe 👫

You know, the ones where you bottle things up, then when you are pi**ed, it all comes out like verbal diarrhoea? 💩 Having these felt easier under the influence of alcohol; I felt like I had more confidence as my pre-frontal cortex had basically gone to sleep. And I would say things I wouldn’t dream of saying sober as my inhibitions lowered.

The thing was, though, I started these conversations while tipsy, but I’d wake up and not remember how it went. So we’d have the conversation again, but this time feeling hungover (and for me, this meant I was in victim mode, and everything was about me; I was a selfish drunk but even more selfish as hungover), anxious, agitated, tired and short-tempered. Again, we wouldn’t get far!

Now, instead of having the ‘difficult’ conversations after leaving emotions to brew, ready to erupt like a volcano, me and Joe will go through the acronym FANOS, which I came across through ’s podcast 🎙️ Debra Laaser developed FANOS, derived from a Greek word meaning “to shed light on,” that is what this structured check-in is designed to do.

Couples are recommended to go through it daily, they say; talking through the entire FANOS should take at least two minutes. But aiming for once a week is a great start, and you can gradually work up to adding more days.

FANOS stands for:

Feelings: Share with your partner an emotion you experienced today.

Affirmations: Affirm your partner for who he/she is or appreciation for something he/she has done.

Needs: Ask for something you need.

Ownership: Take responsibility and apologise for something you have said or done.

Struggles/Sobriety: Here you have an opportunity to tell your partner the status of your struggles/sobriety/recovery today

If you want to learn more about this, check out my newest blog, where I share more tips and an example of what my FANOS looked like when we were on holiday 🏖️

22/02/2024

A sober holiday has you appreciating the little things in life, the things you wouldn’t necessarily notice when you are drunk or hungover, things like:

Waking up fresh as a daisy, getting out a camp chair outside the campervan and sitting there in stillness with so much gratitude towards myself, Joe, the holiday and life! Feeling so excited to begin another day with so much energy 🔋

Walking on the beach, listening to the waves, looking at the beautiful turquoise colours of the sea 🌊 and feeling the sun kiss your face ☀️ and really savouring the moment 💾

Looking at my gorgeous boyfriend with his extremely cheeky smile and the bluest eyes in the whole world 🌎 and feeling like the luckiest girl in the world to have such an amazing boyfriend 💕

Being in awe looking at sunsets and the beautiful colours in the sky with palm trees adding to the ambience 🌴

Being adventurous with food, trying and sharing new dishes, being mindful of the colours, presentation, taste and textures 🥙

Intimate moments with Joe, a cuddle whilst waiting in a queue, holding hands whilst walking, a kiss on my forehead whilst we admire a view and his hand on my leg whilst we sunbathe 🤗

Being on a nature trail walk and noticing all the different colours and textures of the trees, plants and flowers 🌺 Listening to all the different noises of birds, insects and other animals. And smelling the aromas from being outside 🏞️

Having the mental space and agility to make witty jokes and waiting for Joe to turn around with a quick comeback and having a giggle🙊😂

20/02/2024

I’m enjoying my second sober holiday 🏖️😎

When I pause and take a moment to reflect on this because, I can now as I’m not consumed by alcohol. With the internal chatter of ‘How many drinks will I have today?’ or ‘What time is acceptable to start?’ And I’m not nursing a hangover or drinking, for that matter.

I’m incredibly proud, especially with alcohol playing a huge role in holidays whilst I grew up (read more about this in my latest blog, link in my bio) 💻

But basically, I grew up watching that alcohol-equeled fun. How did alcohol play a role in your childhood?

So, for me to not drink on holidays, I really feel like I am going against the grain.

But now, I honestly wouldn’t change my holidays; here are five things I love about sober holidays:

1️⃣ I now enjoy being in the present and savour the special moments ☺️ and enjoy doing the tourist things 🌊 instead of my mind being consumed with where am I next getting my drink from 👀 and wasting days because I am so hungover 🤮

2️⃣ I get to create beautiful holiday memories 🎬 and spend quality time with my loved one whilst still feeling fully involved drinking my mocktails or alcohol-free wine 👩‍❤️‍👨 instead of drunkenly blacking out ⬛

3️⃣ I get to enjoy my mornings on holiday and keep consistent with my meditations 🧘‍♀️journaling 📝 and workouts 🏃‍♀️instead of being in a restless and far from restorative sleep 💤

4️⃣ I wake up every day fresh, energised, grateful, content and excited 🥹 instead of full of anxiety, shame, hatred and regret 😥

5️⃣ I get to read the books I bring 📚instead of them just sitting in my bag staring at me whilst I have a banging headache, not even able to read a sentence 🥴

My holiday is far from that holiday in Dubai where I drank myself silly 🙈

14/02/2024

Happy Soberversary To Me 🎂
 Today, I’m celebrating being one year sober!

When I initially decided to take six months off, all I could think about was all the things I would be giving up.

But looking back on my year, I have not given up anything; I have only gained!

Here are twelve reflections from living 12 months alcohol-free:

* 1. Alcohol does not make things more fun.
* 2. You don’t need alcohol to socialise and make friends!
* 3. When you intentionally spend time to create a life you love, you don’t desire to drink!
* 4. You become so connected and in tune with yourself.
* 5. Being alcohol-free allows space to discover what’s really meaningful to you.
* 6. Alcohol postpones anxiety and then multiplies it.
* 7. It turns out alcohol is not a sleep aid; sedation is not the same as sleep.
* 8. Alcohol-free prosecco is life!
* 9. People use alcohol to change their inner world, but when you do the inner work, you then don’t need to drink!
* 10. I’ve learnt I don’t like staying out past 8 pm because I’m a morning person and love watching the sunrise!
* 11. You gain so much spare time to do things that actually bring you joy!
* 12. I have met my true potential.

Check out my newest blog to read more 💻

Giving up alcohol is my biggest achievement to date!

Cheers to many more alcohol-free years 🥂

I am so excited to see what else I can achieve!

13/02/2024

All I wanted was to be a moderate drinker!

I wanted to be someone who could have one or two glasses of prosecco and then stop at that.

Not someone who would get blackout drunk every time, lose all her belongings and not know who she upset or got home!

When I took breaks from alcohol, I loved who I was! I loved my life so much more!

But I kept chasing that moderate drinking life, I wanted to be like all the sophisticated women in TV, sipping their champagne 🥂

I took many breaks in attempt to reset my drinking!

My last break proved that after my break I ended up in a worse relationship with drinking!

I cannot believe it was one year ago today I took my last drink!

I have just posted a blog on how my holiday to Dubai that I had all intention in the world to spend time with my Mum and make beautiful memories actually went 🙈

And here are some of the pictures I’m not so proud of, my eyes half shut, and clothes hanging off me 🙈

Click my link in my bio to read my new blog

11/02/2024

Wondering what the benefits might be from taking a month break from booze?

I've written a blog post explaing 10 benefits just for you 💻

Read on my website here https://fayelouise.com/blog/10-ten-benefits-of-taking-a-month-break-from-booze

07/02/2024

Need an arsenal of excuses for the next time you’re put on the spot about not drinking?

Look no further my love ❤️

Whether you’re dodging the booze for health, sanity, to save money, loose weight or just because you feel like it (gasp!), I’ve crafted some sarcastically charming excuses to keep the interrogation at bay.

💾 So go ahead, save this post for your next ‘I’m not drinking’ showdown 🎭

01/02/2024

You don’t need to hit rock bottom to decide to take a break from booze – because who needs a dramatic tumble when you can gracefully step away, right?

Some believe that you need to lose everything in order to remove alcohol. While that is the case for some, many haven’t gotten to any bottom, and my hope is that you never do.

I didn’t lose my boyfriend, family, friends, apartment, career, income or savings.

But I realised I was losing my wellbeing, mental health, energy, productivity and ambition to booze! It stopped me from living my best life and building my dream life!

So, I made an empowered decision to take six months off and experiment with what a hangover-free life was like! And I fell in love with my life, living booze-free ❌🍷

Journal on 📝
How do I feel after I drink?
Would my life be better without hangovers?
Is alcohol adding value to my life?
Do I like who I become when I drink?

💾 Save this post so you can journal on this later

01/02/2024

Why, you ask, do women with Ta**us in their chart opt for the exhilarating journey of an alcohol-free lifestyle?

Yesterday, I realised that four women I know, one being myself, all have a Ta**us moon; (one of us has Ta**us as their moon and sun) and we have all made an EMPOWERED decision to remove booze!

Well, let me break down Ta**us’s traits! Swipe away for the secrets ➡️🌌 and then read my personal experiences below ⬇️

1️⃣ Because, personally, when alcohol is in the picture, I morph into the laziest version of myself. Nature outings? Forget about it. And owning nice thing? No way! I lose everything, even my dignity. I’m far from the epitome of grace. Instead, I scream the song ‘Big stinking dirty bass.’ Classy, right? Ah, the cringe! 😬

2️⃣ Stability was a foreign concept when alcohol ruled my world. Relationships, career, mental health, routines – you name it, all over the chaos map 🗺️

3️⃣ Hangovers? They turned me into an Uber Eats navigation disaster. Couldn’t even order food without Joe’s help, let alone tackle my life dreams 💭✨

4️⃣ Drunken me, the absolute reverse of a financial guru – I wasted money, bought drinks and Ubers for strangers to go to dirty afters and everything else that went with that and indulged in many feasts the next day.

5️⃣ Emotional powerhouse? Not quite. Drinking Faye was a symphony of tears and anxiety, the blackouts didn’t help. Life felt hard, and the littlest things triggered a meltdown😅

So, dear Ta**us gals, we know we’re destined for more than a life of hangovers. And with our stubborn streak, quitting and embracing the alcohol-free adventure is practically a cosmic delight! 🚫🍷✨

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