29/06/2024
DEEP DOWN EVERYONE IS GOOD
I was inherently born with this belief & have always looked & focused on the good in everyone that crosses my path. Love to everyone. Please read on.
Everyone is born with goodness in their heart. Then, based on where a person is born (culture), how and by whom they are raised (family, social environment), followed by specific experiences in their lives, they develop a myriad of beliefs about themselves and the world. Not all of these beliefs are supportive and kind, and we’re quite certain most people would agree. As humans, we’ve experienced great things in our lives, but also some very negative ones. Some left scars, while others made it difficult to accept and love ourselves and/or other people.
Most of us (if not everyone) are healing from various negative experiences and beliefs, and thus growing each day.
Where a person is in their journey will determine how easy or difficult it will be for them to engage in productive conversations with others. Your life might be structured the way you want it to - with a calm mind, healthy body, and a happy home. Or you might feel hurt - whether by another person, or simply by some false and detrimental thoughts that you hold about yourself, or the situation that you’re in.
Studies show that people with psychopathic, sadistic, narcissistic, and borderline personality disorders (in particular, the first three), might have difficulty interacting with others, and they might be inclined to make the environment (i.e., the community) unhealthy and unpleasant to others.
I want to emphasize that I always accept you as a person.
It is only a particular behavior that I might consider harmful and not a particular individual. Whatever made someone do something harmful to me or others, I assume that it was not because of “who they are”, but because of what happened to them at a specific point in their life, and chances are that everyone always thinks that they are doing something good - based on how they view the world.
Moreover, if you feel that someone insulted you, please remember that based on how they were born, raised, and what happened to them during their life thus far, they almost certainly think that they are doing something good. The odds are that if you were born and raised in the same circumstances as they had been, and the same factors affected both of you, you’d be acting out similarly to how they are. It’s most likely that what they are saying is not about you, but about them. We’re all struggling - please be kind, even if it’s difficult.
My hope is that everyone who reads this post can take time to understand & reflect on what it contains. 🤗