Mike Martens - Coach

03/21/2026

Time for a conversation

03/21/2026

Most men don’t lose everything all at once… they feel it coming long before it happens.

There’s a man reading this right now…

And on paper, his life looks solid.

Maybe even impressive.

He’s got the income.
The responsibilities.
The people depending on him.

From the outside… he’s the guy other men think has it together.

But inside?

He already knows something’s off.

Not dramatic. Not obvious.
Just… off.

And he hasn’t said it out loud yet…

…but there’s a quiet thought that keeps showing up:

“If this keeps going… I’m going to lose everything.”

03/20/2026

Chuck Norris has gone to be with the Lord. And to say Chuck was a legend is the understatement of the century.

Chuck was a world karate champion who transitioned into acting and became one of the most recognizable faces on the planet. He sparred with Bruce Lee. He trained other actors, including the great Steve McQueen. He went on to become a full-blown cultural phenomenon — the subject of thousands of internet “Chuck Norris facts” that made an entire generation laugh.

But here’s what I loved most about Chuck: the man behind the legend was always quick to point beyond himself. He never let the fame become the point.
He said it best himself: “Real men do live for Christ. It is important to make your peace with Christ while the opportunity exists. Life is so fragile that you never know when it’s going to be over.”

On a personal note, Chuck was gracious enough to endorse the spiritual biography I wrote about his friend Steve McQueen. That meant a lot to me. I had the privilege of meeting him once years ago— and yes, I absolutely made sure we got a photo together. I mean, come on. It’s Chuck Norris.
He was a warrior in every sense of the word — and now he’s home. He will be greatly missed.

03/17/2026

One of The Biggest Lies Men Believe

03/17/2026

A Better Place to Operate From...

03/17/2026

I’ve been working with the most battle-tested men lately — the kind who’ve tasted both victory and loss… and refuse to quit.

And something hit me:

Why do you think good men keep losing battles they were born to win — even when they know what to do, have the plan, and genuinely want to change?

Because they’re fighting the wrong enemy.

They think it’s discipline.
They think it’s motivation.
They think it’s circumstance.

But it’s not.

It’s the stronghold inside — the hidden belief that says,
“I’m not worthy of peace.”
“I don’t deserve rest.”
“I have to earn love before I can receive it.”

So they grind harder.

Pray louder.

But never feel free.

It’s all psychological.

And here’s the thing about men who are actually ready:

They don’t need another sermon, strategy, or morning routine.
They need someone who understands the spiritual mechanics of why they keep falling back.

When you speak to the psychology behind the warfare, you filter out the ones looking for quick comfort…

and attract the ones ready for real freedom.

That was the shift that changed everything for me.

Instead of helping men fix their habits,

I started exposing why those habits exist.

Why fear disguises itself as control.
Why shame hides behind success.
Why scarcity pretends to be wisdom.

Suddenly, I wasn’t just helping men get back up.

I was training warriors to never fall the same way twice.

That’s the power of industrial-grade mindset.

That’s the work of 'The Real Fight'

Get your copy today

03/17/2026

🔥Who am I to think I could ever be a life coach to men?
I failed at the one thing no father can ever fail at —
the one job you can never mess up,
the one task with life-ending and life-changing consequences.

Saying I blew it can’t even come close to attaching magnitude to it…

I lost my son.

How could I have anything to share when I’ve messed up the only thing that truly matters?

Why would anyone want to hear what I have to say when I’m not sure I’ll ever forgive myself?

I told myself:
I deserve what happened.
This is my punishment.
God is disappointed in me...
Who is this imposter — have I completely lost it?

I found myself on the other side of a one-way door, believing all of it — that God, if He was even real, must hate me.

That my story was over.

You might see me that way too.

Heck, I wouldn’t blame you if you did.

But here’s the thing: I don’t see myself like that anymore.

Because those voices — doubt, fear, shame, scarcity —
they weren’t mine.

And they sure didn’t come from God.

They were sent to separate me.

To drive a wedge between who I was and who I was made to be.

To make me forget that even when we lose everything… God hasn’t lost us.

The truth?

Pain. Uncertainty. Questions we can’t answer.

God never promised a life without these things.

We aren’t meant to understand everything.

But He wasn’t punishing me.

He was preparing me.

Preparing me to speak to men who hear the same lies every single day —
men who think they’re too far gone, too broken, too guilty to ever come back.

My boy, Aidan… I miss him so much.

And I knew I had a part to play in keeping his legacy alive —
it just took me a while to figure it out.

At first, I tried to talk about him from a safe place —
to explain the inexplicable,
to focus on memories that didn’t hurt as much.

But even then, I knew there was more.

Now, I talk to men every day.

Men who are suffering in silence —
marriages falling apart, relationships disintegrating,
addictions to substances, social media, lust, p**n,
financial collapse, job loss, business meltdowns…

We often see these as the cause,
but they’re almost always just the symptom,
a catalyst that simply accelerates an already-moving decline.

When I stood on the wrong side of that one-way door, it looked like there was no way back.

Of course there was — just not the one I expected.

The route I discovered to make my way back…

I just couldn’t walk it alone.
..And with time, I realized, I had never been alone in the first place.

The old Mike would’ve called it self-discovery —
trying to learn the lesson hidden in the pain.

But the truth is, these thoughts — these strongholds —
they play a different game.

It looks like the same board,
but while I was playing checkers,
the opponent was playing chess —
and at a grand-master level I was no match for alone.

You don’t need my book to win against that opponent.

You already have an Advocate.

The Creator of all that ever was and ever will be
has already defeated him.

He wins every match.

The only question is — whose move are you trusting?

Turning to God wasn’t my first move when my life fell apart.
I knew about Him, but I didn’t KNOW Him —
not in the way that lets you see Him in every move.

After being completely broken —
after hitting rock bottom and discovering even rock bottom had a basement —

I realized something painfully simple — and life-altering:

There isn’t enough “personal development” in the world
to bring a man through to the other side.

So no, you don’t need my book.

But…

If you are a man who feels like he has been fighting everyone, everything…

If you need a guide to help you see the strongholds,
to recognize the tools of your opponent,
and to learn how I began aligning my human mind
with the divine power we were created with to overcome —
then maybe this short book,

and the coaching that grew out of it,
is exactly what you’ve been missing.

If your comeback starts today…

I want you to have the weapon I wish I had when mine began.

Find the link in the comments - or better still - send me a message and I'll let you know where to find it.

— Mike Martens
The Men’s Comeback Coach

03/17/2026

Before God opens a door, He often prepares the heart.

Growth happens in the quiet moments.
Character is shaped in the unseen seasons.
Faith is strengthened before the opportunity arrives.

What feels like waiting may actually be preparation.

Trust that God is working in you before He works through you.

How has God prepared your heart for what came next?

03/16/2026

Most Men Live Sequentially

03/13/2026

03/13/2026

I’ve been watching something interesting happen to men lately.

Not just in the world… but in their minds.

Right now there’s an endless stream of headlines about war, conflict, politics, and global instability. Naturally men pay attention. We want to understand the battlefield.

That instinct isn’t wrong.

But something strange happens when the mind lives inside the 24-hour news cycle long enough.

Your mind is built to look for resolution. It wants answers, patterns, and clarity so it can settle down.

But the modern information cycle isn’t designed to give you resolution.

It’s designed to keep you searching.

Another headline.
Another theory.
Another analysis.

Just enough information to keep your mind engaged… but never enough to give it peace.

And when the mind can’t find resolution, it digs deeper.

More scrolling.
More speculation.
More tension.

Until eventually something important disappears.

Peace.

Meanwhile the real battle most men are facing isn’t happening on the news.

It’s happening inside them.

The war between truth and the lies they’ve believed about themselves.

The war between peace and the strongholds keeping their mind restless.

The war between the man they’ve been… and the man they know they were meant to become.

The moment a man stops waiting for the outside world to give him peace and begins operating from it instead… something shifts.

His awareness changes.

Headlines lose their grip.

Fear loses its power.

And he begins recognizing the deeper force that actually sustains life — the same power that keeps the earth moving, brings life to everything around us, and keeps your heart beating while you sleep.

A man who reconnects with that truth becomes very difficult to control.

Maybe the most important battle right now isn’t the wars happening in the world.

Maybe it’s the war happening inside your own mind.

If this spoke to something in you…

drop an “Amen, brother.”

I read every one.

And I’d be honored to reach out and ask how I can pray with you today.

03/13/2026

The Leaks That Destroy Good Men

I’ve been watching something strange about men lately.

Not the men who are obviously struggling.

The other ones.

The men who look like they have a lot going right.

The providers.
The responsible ones.
The men who carry weight well.

From the outside their lives look solid.

Business running.
Family intact.
Responsibilities handled.

If you looked at them quickly, you’d probably say:

“Good man. Doing well.”

But if you sit with them long enough…
and listen carefully…

you start noticing something.

Small leaks.

Not obvious failures.

Just little fractures under the surface.

Old resentment, maybe a quiet shame they never spoke about.
Something they regret that still whispers in the background.
A belief about themselves they picked up years ago that never got corrected.

And here’s the strange part.

Most of these men are strong enough to outrun those things for a long time.

Work harder.
Produce more.
Provide better.

Success becomes the thing that keeps the leak hidden.

Until life hits something they can’t outrun.

A loss.
A crisis.
A moment that shakes the foundation.

For me, that moment came when I lost my son Aidan.

Everything I had pushed down for years suddenly showed up.

Grief.

Guilt.

Questions about who I was.

And I realized something that changed everything for me:

If I didn’t deal with what was under the surface…

I wasn’t coming out of it.

Not fully.

That’s when I started noticing this pattern in other men too.

Good men.

Responsible men.

Men who were succeeding in a lot of areas of life.

But carrying something unresolved inside them that was quietly corroding the foundation.

And the truth is…

Most men don’t lose their lives because they’re weak.

They lose them because they ignore something small for too long.

A lie about their identity.

A wound they never forgave.

A shame they never released.

A belief that says:

“You’re not really who people think you are.”

These things don’t destroy a man overnight.

They leak into his life.

Into his marriage.
Into his leadership.
Into his peace.

Until one day he realizes he built a strong life…

on a cracked foundation.

Which is exactly why the real fight is never outside.

It’s inside.

And the strongest men I know aren’t the ones who never struggle.

They’re the ones who finally stop pretending the struggle isn’t there.

And they deal with it.

Drop an “Amen, brother.” it this connects.