09/23/2026
Sometimes it’s easier to say no to a man, than it is to say no to a woman.
Stay with me here. (I promise you the feminist has not left the building).
Women have typically been conditioned to be “easy,” and not difficult. We are socialized to be forgiving, even if the other person has pushed our boundaries. This is people-pleasing at it’s core.
Underneath of that, is a slow resentment that builds - not only towards the other person, but also towards yourself. It’s abandonment of your own needs.
I bring this up because I was in a tricky position last week:
A call that was scheduled to happen with all decision makers at the table started very late. The main decision maker didn’t give me a heads up, and when I offered to reschedule the call to later in the day, I got push back. I was told, that I needed to give them “grace.”
The reason for being late was another work priority - which happens all the time. I say, give me a quick heads up so I can reschedule - and not waste anyone’s time. My time is more precious than gold right now.
On the flip side, I’ve never had this experience with men. They always seem open to negotiate, tend to be flexible and accommodating and apologetic when schedules unexpectedly shift.
And I’m not using this experience to blanket all women, that would be silly. But it’s an observation. Us “women” have been talking behind the scenes about this quietly, for years.
How did the conversation end? Abruptly. We quickly realized working together was a complete mismatch of values.
“Women supporting women,” is not always what it seems folks.
