11/05/2026
I met my husband 18 years ago today. Back then, I was knee-deep in running my laundry business and had been going through a challenging time.
The weekend I met him, I had quit my job on the spot and gone all in on my side hustle. I was supporting myself, and suddenly, the only income I had was the one from my on the side job I now had to make work.
Starting a new relationship was probably not the best business strategy and I can't lie, it definitely interfered with my plans. I have no regrets of course, but I often think about what I could have done differently had I focused more on the business and not on him!
I ran that business for 10 years, it became a big part of our lives together and it constrained us a lot. Holidays were only for one week each year, I worked 24/7 and weekends, I was never truly available. Looking back, I'm not sure how we made it work.
The change point came when I found out the son I was carrying was going to be born poorly, and everything had to shift. I was 8 years into the business then. 8 Years of believing that I had to do everything myself and then suddenly a change in circumstances proved to me how wrong I was.
Within weeks I had employed a van driver and sub-contracted to 10 people. You see, us humans, we are good at lying to ourselves, at tricking our brains to believe what we want it to believe.
Or perhaps, it's our ego, I'm not sure, that tells us only we can do it right. My business did better financially in the 2 years from then until I sold it, than it had in the previous 8 years. Because suddenly, I was no longer the bottleneck holding progress back.
That's exactly why the first thing I did when I started my VA agency was to outsource and build a team. This time around I scaled to 6-figures in under four years. What a difference. It's sad but I still seeing business owners making the same mistakes I made all the time. Sometimes I just want to shake them and say stop!! I know it's hard, hard to let go, hard to trust. But it's the only way.
We've also been married 12 years just gone on the 10th so, happy anniversary Pete. Thanks for the patience and believing in me! ❤️