23/09/2026
What is wrong with me?
I hear myself saying this to myself quite a lot.
Why can’t I just do the thing? Why have I forgotten that again? Why am I overwhelmed by something that everyone else seems to manage? Why have I got 14 things half finished because I got distracted by something else? Why can I run a business, look after two kids and juggle a million things, but replying to one really simple email can feel fu***ng impossible?
What is wrong with me?
And actually, I really need to stop asking myself that question.
Because it’s a pretty s**tty way to talk to yourself, isn’t it? I wouldn’t look at one of my friends when they were struggling and ask them what the f**k was wrong with them. I’d probably point out the 900 other things they were carrying and tell them to give themselves a break.
Yet somehow when it’s me, my brain goes straight there.
I’m trying to catch myself doing it now and consciously change the question. Not what is wrong with me?, but what is making this hard for me right now?
Because those are two very different questions. One assumes I’m the problem. The other gives me half a chance of actually working out what the problem is.
It sounds so simple, but changing the way you’ve spoken to yourself for years takes some bloody work.
Anyone else having to consciously catch their inner Negative Nancy and change the way they talk to themselves?