15/08/2026
1. When people show you who they really are, believe them.
Stop making excuses for people just because you love them. Their actions will tell you everything their words won’t.
2. No is a full sentence.
You don’t need a 12-point presentation explaining why you can’t, won’t or simply don’t f**king want to (chronic over explainer)
3. Love your mum and dad like they’re the most precious people on earth. Because they are.
Call them. Go round. Take the photo. Ask the questions. Make the memories. Because when you lose one of them, life is never quite the same again.
4. Cuddle your dog. Let them get muddy. Let them have fun. Let them sleep on your bed every bloody night.
Their life is heartbreakingly short, and they’ll be more loyal to you than most humans you’ll ever meet.
5. Your health is your actual wealth.
Not your house. Not your job. Not how much money you’ve got. You can have everything you’ve ever wanted and none of it means much when your health disappears.
6. Stop being kind to people who repeatedly treat you like s**t.
Being a good person doesn’t mean being endlessly understanding. Some people don’t need another chance. They need less access to you.
7.. Try everything. Fail. Change your mind. Start again. Look ridiculous. Let the ADHD take over for a while (IYKYK)
Your 20s aren’t for proving you’ve got your whole life figured out. Half the people who look like they do are fu***ng winging it anyway.
8.. Money DOES matter.
It might not buy happiness, but it buys choices, freedom, experiences, help when you need it and the ability to walk away from situations you don’t want to tolerate. I’ll take that.
9. Perfect doesn’t exist. Stop waiting for your life to become EVERYTHING before you enjoy it.
There will always be something going wrong. The chaos IS life.
10. Not everyone deserves the version of you that would do absolutely anything for them.
Save that version for the people who would do the same for you.
There you have it, Toni’s Top Tips for surviving life from a late diagnosed ADHD’er and a serial overthinker 🤣🫶🏼
P.s. Get the therapy!
Toni ✨
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