Alexandra Standley

Alexandra Standley Personal Stylist, Speaker & Sustainable Fashion Expert. Style is more than just clothing, it’s a powerful tool for influence & confidence.

I help trailblazing women craft a signature style that aligns with their ambitions, values & amplifies their impact. Ex M&S Fashion Buyer
Professionally trained by The Image Consulting Company

Everyone looks the same right now. Same generic neutrals. You see the same outfits across events that say nothing about ...
12/06/2026

Everyone looks the same right now. Same generic neutrals. You see the same outfits across events that say nothing about who the woman wearing them actually is.

And you fell into that trap too.

But your style and the way you show up is one of the few ways you can create a unique point of view that’s memorable and impactful.

Maybe you bought into the quiet luxury neutrals trend because you saw it on Instagram or it’s what the high street was full of. But you ended up feeling a bit meh and bland because it never really spoke to who you truly are. 

And I get it. Because I did it too. For 15 years as a fashion buyer I was paid to chase trends, and I did the same in my own wardrobe, not following what I truly loved or what felt like me. 

When I had my daughter and the crisis of identity that followed with my body image and feeling lost in who I was, it changed that for me.

Slowly over the last 7 years I’ve been rebuilding that connection to myself and what I love, and I’ve never felt more comfortable in my own skin and braver in wearing what I want to, when I want to. 

There’s something totally freeing and empowering about being completely yourself. Not conforming to anyone else’s idea of beauty or what success is supposed to look like on the outside. 

Of course I still have my moments when I’m walking into a new room of people I’ve never met before, but my style and the way I show up is always a talking point, which makes those initial nerves so much easier to overcome.

That’s the power of identity-led styling that starts with you. No more second-guessing when you open your wardrobe in the morning.

Because people connect human to human, not with a version of you that you created to feel safe.

I use Human Design, astrology, values and strengths work to see who you actually are - not the version you’ve been performing, not the version you think you should be. The woman underneath all of that.

And then we make her visible through your style. That’s the work in Identity to Impact, one spot open for June.

DM me IDENTITY to book your free style strategy call.

10/06/2026

The harshest critic in your wardrobe isn’t the mirror. It’s a voice you picked up somewhere along the way - from a parent, a teacher, someone who thought they had the right to comment.

And somewhere between then and now, it became yours.
 
This is one of the topics I talk with Lisa Unger - Binge Eating and Body Confidence Specialist - about on the podcast this week.

This episode is part of our June series on body confidence and body image - not from a place of fixing or shrinking, but from the truth of what actually changes when you stop waiting for a future version of yourself to arrive.
 
Because we talk a lot about body confidence, but we rarely trace it back to where it actually started. Lisa does that in this episode, and she does it with the kind of honesty that only comes from having lived it herself.
 
We also get into the “one day” wardrobe, the mirror technique that breaks the hyper-focus habit, why losing five and a half stone didn’t bring the confidence she expected, and why dressing for how you want to feel is a completely different operating system to dressing for how you think you should look.

Listen to the full episode via the link in bio.
Or search ‘A Styled Life’ wherever you get your podcasts.

Most women walk into high-stakes rooms hoping they look the part.The ones who get rebooked, referred and remembered, wal...
08/06/2026

Most women walk into high-stakes rooms hoping they look the part.

The ones who get rebooked, referred and remembered, walk in knowing it.

When I work with clients 1-2-1, once we’ve understood your identity, we uncover your style archetypes. The two that capture who you are and how you want to be experienced.

From there we build your unique signature style. A look that belongs entirely to you and works across every moment you step into.

Mindy Gibbins-Klein is a 2x TEDx Speaker, Top 10 Thought Leader and Founder. Her two archetypes are The Modern Muse and The Powerhouse.

This combination creates a presence that speaks to her authority without being cold, her elegance without being safe. A room knows who she is before she’s introduced.

“I have LOVED working with Alex on my style and wardrobe refresh! She is kind, intuitive and really efficient! I’ve got some excellent speaking opportunities coming up and I’m confident I’ll be looking my best for them.”

Every season you don’t have this clarity, is another season of walking into rooms hoping rather than knowing. Another event where someone else was more memorable. Another opportunity that went to the woman the room couldn’t forget.

At Stage Ready Style on 17th June you’ll discover your two closest archetypes, the starting point for showing up in every high-stakes room with the clarity and impact your work deserves.

The women who already said yes to this room understand the cost of waiting. They are all in and this day will change the results of the second half of 2026 for them.

17th June. Citizen M, Tower Bridge. LAST DAY to book!

DM me STAGE to book your spot.

She is a senior leader, relocating from New York to London. Conscious of setting the right tone of voice without needing...
05/06/2026

She is a senior leader, relocating from New York to London. Conscious of setting the right tone of voice without needing to say anything.

And she was getting dressed every morning hoping to look clean and presentable. Not memorable, not herself. Just presentable.

There was one night, a black tie event, where she wore a dress she loved. Everyone told her she looked incredible. She felt incredible. And then the next morning she went back to the jeans and the jumpers and the safe choices.

She knew what was possible. She just couldn’t access it herself.

When we worked together we overhauled everything. Not in a rip-it-all-out way. In a what-is-this-wardrobe-actually-saying-about-you way.

She’d been hiding in shapes that didn’t serve her. Playing it safe with colour. The pieces she’d bought and never worn still had the tags on.

We rebuilt around a capsule that worked hard for her life. The informal days, the high-level meetings, the moments that needed her to walk in already knowing.

We elevated her style through fit and colour. Not bold for the sake of bold. Hers. The colours and silhouettes that made her look like herself, not like she was trying.

The pieces she’d never felt brave enough to wear? She wears them now.

“It has been extraordinary. It has given me huge confidence and more reason than ever to show up as I want to - in the everyday and the most difficult meetings.”

She’s not dressing to be presentable anymore. She’s dressing to be remembered.

If you want to walk in and have the room adjust. To be the one they defer to, before you’ve said a word. To stop the quiet convincing that happens when presence doesn’t match reputation. I have space for one new 1-2-1 client this month inside Identity to Impact.

We go way beyond surface level styling to translate your identity into how you’re showing up. DM me STYLE and let’s talk.

03/06/2026

I am the biggest clothing size I’ve ever been. I am also the most confident, the strongest and the healthiest I’ve ever been.

Those two things existing at the same time used to feel impossible to me.

I worked in fashion buying for 15 years and that industry I loved was part of the problem. For years I thought being smaller meant being more. More attractive. More credible. More worthy of taking up space. That story runs deep for a lot of the women I work with.

In this week’s episode of A Styled Life podcast, I’m joined by Ro Feilden Cook, founder of and one of the women who has quietly transformed how I look after myself.

We get into something that I think so many women need to hear: the fear that if you accept your body has changed, you’ve surrendered to it.

But what Ro has seen in her community and what I’ve lived personally, is the opposite. When you stop fighting and start nurturing and strengthening your body, confidence shifts. Not because anything dramatic changes on the outside. Because you feel strong and worthy in your body.

You’ll also hear Ro’s incredibly inspiring story. And we get into dopamine dressing, why getting dressed is a nervous system practice, shopping secondhand with intention, and the real cost of waiting for the right time to start looking after yourself.

You don’t want to miss this one. Link in bio to listen or search A Styled Life wherever you get your podcasts.

This will be the room you talk about in six months time as the day that changed you.And it will have nothing to do with ...
02/06/2026

This will be the room you talk about in six months time as the day that changed you.
And it will have nothing to do with knowing your colour chart!

Yes, we talk colour, it’s important. But before then we go deeper than that. Who are you beneath the labels of mother, daughter, founder etc and how do we reconnect your style with that woman?

The setting signals it from the moment you arrive. Floor to ceiling windows with incredible views of London. A space that already says something about the level you are operating at.

Every last detail has been thought of with a level of intention you have not seen at another style event.

From the Vogue postcards with your style archetypes - which will change how you think about getting dressed from that day forward - to the gifts designed to continue your expansion beyond the room.

A luxury scent that becomes an anchor for your new identity. Gifts you will reach for before your next big moment. You’ve been to events that felt good in the room but faded by Monday. Stage Ready Style is built differently.

That’s why I chose Priscilla Pollara because you won’t find her at every other women in business event.

Her Lego session will give you words and permission to show up as you, in your own unique way.

All of this creates a safe space to expand into your next level.

This is Stage Ready Style. 17th June. London.

DM me STAGE to claim one of the last few spots.

I was at the Women’s FA Cup Final yesterday. Proud, emotional, genuinely moved by what women’s football has become. My d...
01/06/2026

I was at the Women’s FA Cup Final yesterday. Proud, emotional, genuinely moved by what women’s football has become. My daughter attends a girls’ football club that simply didn’t exist when I was growing up. We have come so far.

And then I looked down at the pitch.
Eight female presenters, Channel 4 , BBC. All of them in grey, beige, neutral. Every single one.

I’m not saying bold colour is the answer for everyone, it’s not. But eight women? Not one colour or personality in sight? That’s not coincidence, that’s a pattern.

As a stylist I’m always watching for the moment a woman stops using her style as a powerful tool and starts using it as a shield. And a sea of beige on one of women’s biggest sporting days of the year felt like exactly that.

If every one of those women genuinely loves neutrals and made that choice from a place of confidence and ownership, I’ll say nothing more. But that’s rarely what’s happening. What’s happening is: safe, professional, inoffensive, and following the trends.

We’ve told women to take up more space for decades. Yet style remains one place where making yourself forgettable still feels like the sensible choice.

Here’s what landed it for me.

At the tube station that morning, my daughter said she felt weird. We were the only ones in bright colours. She’d told me earlier she felt like a princess in her pleated swooshy skirt. And by the time we arrived, she was second-guessing it.

She is seven. I told her: you don’t see princesses blending in, do you? We wear what makes us happy.

She is my why. So is every woman who has quietly edited herself for rooms that haven’t yet caught up with who she is.

Women’s voices are being heard in ways they never were. I want the visual presence to match.

So yes, I will keep saying it. I say this not to criticise, women don’t need any more of that. These women are extraordinary. That’s exactly why it matters.

I’d love to hear from other women. Does this resonate or do you disagree? Tell me in the comments.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

You will spend weeks stressing over what to wear for the speaking slot, the photoshoot, the networking event, the big bi...
29/05/2026

You will spend weeks stressing over what to wear for the speaking slot, the photoshoot, the networking event, the big birthday…

But on an ordinary Tuesday at home? You’ve quietly checked out.

Thrown on the athleisure, (with no intention of working out!), and told yourself it doesn’t matter. Shrunk into practicality and saved the real version of you for later.

This is where I challenge that. Because style is not something you switch on for special occasions. It is an everyday relationship with yourself.

What you wear impacts how you feel, how you think, how you carry yourself. Science calls this enclothed cognition. I call it proof that clothes are never just clothes.

Those moments when nobody is watching - the podcast recorded from home, the school run, the kitchen table at 9am, the I can’t be bothered day - those moments matter too.

Because identity is built in repetition. Not in the one-off wow outfit. But in the quiet decision to show up for yourself again and again. Self trust is built in holding your standards in every area of your life.

And absolutely that can look like leopard print and red trousers on a random Wednesday in my house!

And to be clear - outfit repeating is not laziness. It is how a signature is built. The women with the most memorable style wear the same things on rotation - that is identity, not a lack of imagination.

If you are ready to build a style that feels this intentional and uniquely yours - this is exactly the work we do at Stage Ready Style on 17th June.

Where you become the woman who is unforgettable in every room. Whether that’s at home on zoom or standing on stage delivering your TEDx talk.

DM me STAGE. A few spots left.

27/05/2026

“Wear the dress for the future woman.”

Katie Keith spent 25 years in corporate finance. She sat at boardroom tables where she was often the only woman in the room. And when she finally stepped out of that world, she did something most women do last, she used her style as part of her strategy.

Not a reward for getting there. As a tool for becoming her.

Most women do it the other way around. You wait until you’ve arrived, until you feel ready, until your body is different or the business is bigger. And all the while, the gap between who you are and how you’re showing up quietly costs you.

Style and identity are not separate things.

This conversation with Katie is one of the most honest accounts I’ve had on the podcast of what it actually takes to step out of a system that’s been defining you and dress your way into what comes next.

Katie shares some powerful advice around what it means to be a woman of value, not just one who creates it. About the ritual she uses before she says yes to anything. And the moment she looked in the mirror and didn’t recognise herself, and what she did about it.

I know this one will resonate deeply with you. Link in bio to listen to the full episode, or search A Styled Life wherever you get your podcasts.

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