Kelly’s Kids Childminding Services

01/04/2022

Edible sand and diggers for my 9month old this morning.

We love a bit of messy play!

30/03/2022

25/03/2022

Nice freezer activity this morning. Tulip petals in the freezer overnight with some warm salty water to melt the ice.

We’ll talk about spring, colours, counting, fine motor skills. Simple activity with lots of play opportunities.

19/01/2022

19/01/2022

Another day, another course done ✅

08/11/2021

Whilst I’m still up a few times through the night breastfeeding 🤱 I decided to do something useful with my time as there’s only so much Netflix I can take 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️

So last night I did a little course about ADHD Awareness

05/11/2021

We’ve spent our morning making fireworks 💥

19/10/2021

Painting with cars is always a great option for mark making and doesn’t make too much mess! It also gives us great talking opportunities, we spoke about:
🚘 colours of cars
🚘 how many cars we had in each colour
🚘 types of cars

So many benefits to such a simple activity

14/09/2021

I don’t think anyone enjoys behaving “badly.”

Before children can regulate their own emotions they communicate them through behavior.

If nobody helps untangle those big feelings they keep acting them out. In an instinctive bid for help ~> connection.

Kids depend upon parents and caregivers to help them regulate through right relationship ~ coregulation.

That's why the most important practice as a parent or child-minder is emotional regulation and setting an example of how to communicate and behave.

Behavior is always communication. It signals an overflow or shortage of connection, communication, or compassion. (safety)

I believe children want to progress. If they aren't, it's because they cant. YET.

The antidote to behavior such as ”pulling away”, ”clinging” and “acting out” is helping children to feel understood, connected and safe.

What helps a child progress is what helps you and me.

We all need to FEEL safe, understood, seen, heard, cared for and connected.

It's healthy and normal for children to be cooperative when they feel safe, connected, and regulated, and it's normal for children to be uncooperative when they feel unsafe, disconnected, and dysregulated.

However, when a child has to be ”good” at all times to ensure their safety or secure parental regulation, acceptance and connection, that is not healthy.

The goal is to connect to the child and empathize with all the feelings as we disconnect from the outcome (our agenda) and redirect the behavior.

It takes maturity and compassion on our part, to SEE the hurting child, to HEAR the unmet need, and CHOOSE to fill the void and HEAL the hurt through love and understanding, opposed to using criticism and shame to temporarily stop the behavior.

The more we learn to understand our feelings and fulfill our needs, the more we understand the feelings and needs of our children and help them to understand their feelings and fulfill their needs, so they understand the feelings and needs of others.

Jane Nelson said it best, “Children do better when they feel better!”

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01/09/2021

It’s a tractor day today to keep with our farm themed week. We’ve met plenty of animals this week 🐷 🐑 🐎 🐇 🦎 🐸 🐠 🐜