15/09/2022
How to understand that a relationship with a former partner is not worth reanimating?
It is not difficult to see this: the partner does not want to have a dialogue, he does not need to make even the smallest compromises, and any little thing in your communication becomes an insurmountable barrier.
The main "contraindication" for the resuscitation of relationships is a serious discrepancy between deep values in a couple. For example, one of the partners advocates an open relationship, and the other advocates traditional family values. In this case, there will be a lot of pain and destruction in the relationship.
The psychologist recommends remembering how Charlotte and Trey in the movie "S*x and the City" tried to build a family. Charlotte wanted a traditional family with kids, but Trey didn't want kids. It was very difficult and painful for both Charlotte and Trey to accept such a reality. But it was precisely the acceptance of the reality of oneself and the other and, as a result, the divorce that allowed Charlotte to get to know herself and her values better, to find the line she was not ready to cross even for the sake of her beloved.
