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10 ways to relieve stress at work 🧑‍💻We cannot control the behavior of other people or the course of events at work, but...
16/09/2022

10 ways to relieve stress at work 🧑‍💻

We cannot control the behavior of other people or the course of events at work, but we are able to control our own internal state by increasing our awareness.

This will help the practice of mindfulness, which is described by the American psychologist, a specialist in the field of conscious communications Louise Altman:

1. Make a promise to yourself to become more aware of the present.
2. Start simple
3. Start your day with a short mindfulness practice.
4. If you tend to start your day fast, try to deliberately slow down your pace.
5. Try to really listen to your colleagues
6. Don't Forget to Acknowledge Other People's Achievements, Needs, and Challenges
7. Pay attention to your body language
8. Watch what and how you say
9. Think about what result you expect from each action - call, letter, meeting
10. At the end of the day at the office or in the evening at home, take time to practice introspection.

How do you know if a teenager is at risk?Together with an expert, we have prepared a cheat sheet for parents:• SayingsSe...
15/09/2022

How do you know if a teenager is at risk?
Together with an expert, we have prepared a cheat sheet for parents:

• Sayings
Seven out of ten teenagers indirectly hint about their intentions and heavy thoughts with phrases:
“I can’t do it anymore, I don’t believe that I can handle it, I don’t see a way out”, “You don’t have to worry about me anymore.”

• Behavior
Parents should be alerted by the sudden decision of a teenager to complete plans, give away his things, post farewell photos on social networks, write notes.

• Mood and feelings
A teenager most of the time looks sad, depressed, withdrawn, self-absorbed. Or, on the contrary, his mood is extremely unstable.

• Learning and thinking
The teacher may notice changes in the teenager's behavior. Take a look at the electronic diary: have the grades gotten worse? Or maybe the child began to skip classes often?

• Health
A teenager's appetite changes, sleep is disturbed, and he may also begin to complain of pain in the body when he has no other signs of illness.

6 life hacks for those who strive for success1. Catch your feelings and trust them. Try to touch them - then later your ...
14/09/2022

6 life hacks for those who strive for success

1. Catch your feelings and trust them. Try to touch them - then later your hand will get stuck.
2. Change your usual space and rhythm, especially if you feel uncomfortable in the current conditions. Only in this way can something new come. There is no new road in the old track.
3. Wish, fantasize, dream, and, most importantly, live up to your desires — help them come true with diligence and perseverance.
4. Go where you want, but scary! Then it will become habitual, and more ambitious goals - more achievable.
5. Work with mentors and become mentors. The exchange of experience and knowledge energizes us and brings us closer to our goals.
6. Learn to relax and replenish energy. Plan rest and recovery in the same way as your own affairs - with full responsibility.

Wabi-sabi are two Japanese words that help us perceive the world around us and ourselves as unique objects for comprehen...
13/09/2022

Wabi-sabi are two Japanese words that help us perceive the world around us and ourselves as unique objects for comprehending beauty, hidden from the hustle and bustle.

The main essence of the approach is in three statements:
1. "Truth arises from the observation of nature."
2. "Greatness lives in the secret and forgotten details."
3. "Beauty can come from imperfection."

This philosophy extends to relationships - both to yourself and to other people. “A relationship in the spirit of wabi-sabi teaches you to accept the other person with all his shortcomings, but not forget to accept your own. Because perfection can be boring.”

You can apply the same approach to yourself: “I already have everything inside me that I need to feel valued and be happy. It is enough for me to pay attention to the most essential. By avoiding the fuss and dictatorship of fashion, I can accept myself for who I am.”

Standard perfection and ostentatious luxury is opposed by the uniqueness, imperfection and modesty of wabi-sabi.

You were not noticed as a child: 7 consequences of living in a toxic familyIf the parents treated the child with disdain...
10/09/2022

You were not noticed as a child: 7 consequences of living in a toxic family

If the parents treated the child with disdain, ignored his feelings and desires, did not take into account his opinion, it is difficult for him to become self-confident. What other “tails” from childhood can poison his adult life?

We analyze the stereotypes of behavior (https://www.psychologies.ru/articles/v-detstve-vas-ne-zamechali-7-posledstvii-zhizni-v-toksichnoi-seme/), formed in people who were not noticed in childhood, who were treated cruelly, who were suppressed:

1. Frustrated if others don't notice things that matter to you.
2. Feeling left out
3. Striving to "fix" others
4. Obsessive desire to compare yourself to others
5. Feeling not being listened to
6. The desire to constantly explain and justify
7. Constant desire to eat

Affirmations: what is it and how to make it correctly?Affirmations are positive statements that we use to push negative ...
09/09/2022

Affirmations: what is it and how to make it correctly?

Affirmations are positive statements that we use to push negative stereotypes out of our consciousness.
You can use ready-made options, or you can create it yourself, taking into account several important nuances. You need to contact them at least once a day. This rule is the same for all affirmations.

How to write positive affirmations

❗️ Firstly, in order to correctly compose an affirmation, one should avoid denials, that is, particles “not”, the words “no”, “never” and similar. After all, these particles are associated with negativity, and it is from it that we try to get away. The phrase should carry a positive, creative load. For example, when writing affirmations for health, use instead of "I never get sick" correctly say "I am absolutely healthy."

❗️Secondly, the text of the affirmation must be formulated in the present tense, as if everything has already happened, and you have what you are talking about.

The word "want" (and/or "can") should not be used. Are you focused on “having” something or “being” someone, and not “wanting” something all your life? The same applies to the future tense - the fulfillment of desire in this case, as it were, is constantly postponed until later.

If your current state of affairs is such that possession phrases can be perceived as a mockery (“I am absolutely healthy” with a cold, a stuffy nose, a “heavy” head and a temperature of 39.9), use phrases that reflect a steady improvement (“Every day I'm getting healthier, more energetic and more beautiful").

The more clearly and specifically the message to yourself is formulated, the more effective it is. In addition, the effect of affirmations is enhanced by a bright emotional coloring. For example, compare: “I have my own house” or “I have a luxurious two-story mansion with a huge pool, a terrace and a two-car garage.”

Make up bright, attractive wording for you.

The affirmation should not be too long, as it needs to be repeated often. Of course, you should like it and literally come from your soul.
Well, the main principle: you must unconditionally believe in affirmation, as well as in yourself.
Believe - and you will succeed!

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