25/03/2026
I could recall a conversation I once had with my mum, and it was about leadership. Leadership for me is neither naturally given nor learned, it comes to someone who finds love in the heart of majority. To me, most leaders are moved by people who has loved them first. That's why being charismatic is a thing of honor. You can be liked without doing so much and more loved when you do a little.
Why did I say that? I was born as the first child and first daughter in an average Nigerian home, and right from the time I could recall, I think that I am caring but not selfless. So, anytime any of my parents wants to make me understand my position as the first child and a girl at that matter, I constantly reminded them that it wasn't an automatic position to fixing others or things. If I choose to do something, I am only doing it because the opportunity presented itself and I would have ensured that I am not overburdening myself. So, for me being a first child wasn't an automatic ticket to being a role model to others(infact don't praise me or compare me to others because you might not be sure of my next actions)
In my family, the person who does it selflessly, even if he's in pains is closer to the least in the lines of seniority and sometimes when I see him carry others(words of wisdom, finances, care etc) even when he has a lot to take care of, with smiles and all of that, I asked God why he didn't allow him come first.
You can't see me in a space fighting for any outstanding leadership position and even in cases where I have been offered, I usually turned them down, not because if I agree in doing it, I won't do it well, but I just disliked the aspect of committing to something that i wouldn't do well. When you see me agree to play a role, just be sure that I will do it extremely well and quit when I no longer wants it.
So, my question to the politicians in Nigeria? why forcefully take up roles that you are very much aware that you can't handle? Nobody should tell me its the money, because I have seen those with money, yet they are so not interested in leading anyone.
Why exactly would you want to be in a position where it is damn obvious to you that you aren't liked or approved ( by the majority), yet you still want to be there at all costs?
Why would you take up a role, refuse to perform and still want to be in that role?
Do you people have a problem with pride, self-worth and dignity?
Ogochukwu Evangelista Ebenebe