02/05/2026
**The Agony of Having No Connections in Nigeria**
In Nigeria, there is a popular phrase often said half in jest but deeply rooted in reality: *“Who you know matters more than what you know.”* For many, this statement is not just a cliché—it is a lived experience. The absence of connections, or what is commonly referred to as “man-know-man,” can turn even the simplest aspirations into an uphill battle.
For a young graduate stepping out of university with high hopes, the job market quickly becomes a harsh awakening. Degrees, skills, and even passion sometimes seem secondary to having the right contacts. Job openings are frequently filled before they are publicly advertised, and opportunities quietly circulate within closed networks. Those without access to these networks often find themselves endlessly submitting applications, attending interviews that lead nowhere, and questioning their own worth.
Beyond employment, the struggle extends into everyday life. Securing contracts, gaining admission into certain institutions, accessing government services, or even resolving minor bureaucratic issues can become unnecessarily difficult without someone to “put in a word.” Processes that should be straightforward are often slowed down or complicated, leaving those without connections frustrated and disillusioned.
This reality breeds a silent agony—one that is rarely discussed openly. It creates a sense of exclusion and can erode confidence. Talented individuals begin to doubt themselves, not because they lack ability, but because the system does not always reward merit alone. Over time, this can lead to discouragement, resentment, and even the temptation to compromise personal values just to belong.
However, the issue is not entirely black and white. Human societies naturally thrive on relationships, and networking in itself is not wrong. The problem arises when connections overshadow competence, when favoritism replaces fairness, and when opportunities are no longer accessible to all based on merit.
Despite these challenges, many Nigerians continue to persevere. Some choose to build their own paths through entrepreneurship, leveraging creativity and resilience to bypass traditional gatekeepers. Others intentionally cultivate networks, not through manipulation, but through genuine relationships, collaboration, and consistency.
The agony of having no connections in Nigeria is real, but it is also a call for systemic change. A society that prioritizes merit, transparency, and equal opportunity will not only reduce this frustration but unlock the full potential of its people. Until then, many will continue to navigate this complex reality—holding on to hope, striving for excellence, and believing that someday, what they know will matter just as much as who they know.
May our children not suffer what we suffered for lack of connections.
Obute Adams Christian
Director Prince Adamco Graphics
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