13/12/2025
Your husband is always the problem. All the challenges in your marriage are your husband's fault.
This is the narrative you give people out there. You insite everywhere with confidence. Every conflict, every emotional distance, every disappointment, you already know who to blame, your husband.
You have crowned yourself as the innocent one, the harmless, spotless and faultless. You have never raised your voice, never withdrawn intimacy, never walked out of him, never shut down communication, you are the perfect one.
How can you be married and completely innocent of your marital issues? Be realistic, how can your marital issues be without your fingerprints? Even when the sizes of those fingerprints differ?
The moment you chose the easiest role in that relationship, the problem began then. You do this when you paint yourself as innocent, the victim.
Victims only accuse, they don't self reflect, grow, learn, apologize, nor change. Nothing destroys marriage faster than when one person masters the act of blaming the other person always with zero self awareness skill.
Remember, this numbing comes with a cost, because you loose the power to transform your marriage. You lose influence over anything you refuse responsibility for.
Marriages don't collapse from the man's fault alone, they collapse from 2 people's wrongs and the healing begins when as a woman, you accept yours and the blaming stops ✋️
Look in the mirror and tell yourself the truth about what you're contributing to the existing problem as a woman.
