06/02/2024
~>Muhammad, is my first son. Duk sanda yaci abinci ya koshi yaji dadi, sai yace dani, Papa, when I grow up you would tell me the secret to choosing a good wife. He sees that his mummy is good and we always appreciate her.
Yanzu is not the right time to discuss marriage with the 8 year old Muhammad, but ina so na amsa wannan tambayar saboda matasa masu shirin yin aure sannan kuma idan bankai lokacin ba, Muhammad zai iya karanta wannan rubutun. Muje zuwa:
Yadda ake zabar mace ta gari shine: Da farko abin tushe yake samu. Idan iyaye na gari ne, to bakada damuwa, domin zasu tsaya sosai wajen ganin ka samu mata ta gari. To amma wani sirri da ba kowa ya sani ba shine. Ita mata ta gari ko miji na gari iyaye ne suke roka maka tun kana yaro, tun ma baka san kanka ba. Haka iyayen mu su kai mana. Tun muna yara ake ce mana "Allah ya baku mata nagari". Wannan ita ce nasara ta farko. Don haka idan kana da iyaye a raye, ka ce musu su rika maka adduar Mata tagari domin babu hijabi tsakanin adduar iyaye da Ubangiji.
Na biyu kuma shine, Ka zama nagari:
Nagari ne kadai yake iya gane mace tagari. Idan kai shashasha ne, dan sharholiya ne da iskanci, kuma kana bin mutanen banza, toh ba ta yadda zaka iya gane mace tagari. Yazo a cikin suratul Nur aya ta 3,inda Allah yake cewa mutumin banza baya aure sai daga macen banza, hakanan macen banza bata aure sai daga namijin banza. Don haka idan kana son mace tagari, kai ma sai ka zama na gari.
Na uku, zabi mace daga gida nagari:
Gida na gari baya buya, kowa ya sani. Ance ido ba mudu ba yasan kima. Don't underestimate that statement. Kaje Unguwa ka tambaya, indai gidan su mutanen kirki ne za'a gaya maka. Kuma tun daga inda ka fara magana da yarinya zaka gane gidan su wane irin gidane. Shaida ta farko itace, yar mutanen kirki baza ta fara tsayawa da kai ba sai ka nemi izinin mahaifin ta. Sannan a yanayin shigarta da maganar ta da kallo, da mu'amalar ta, tun anan zaka gane ita yar wane irin gida ce. Kamar yadda za kayi bincike akanta, haka za k
