19/07/2025
Hello ma, I want to share what is happening to me and ask your audience for advice. I have been a silent follower. I have three kids with my husband, who works with a ministry and earns 140k. We live in free accommodation of his company. However, when it's month-end, I discover the money is not enough to take care of the house. I play my role as a supportive wife. I bring out over 200k monthly for the house. I work from home selling shoes online and have a large WhatsApp group. Since I spend more, I told him to assist with household chores, at least bathing the kids, sweeping the house, filling the gas, and tidying up. But he never does it. He won't even buy a washing machine.
I bought some things to make the house fine, but instead of saying thank you, he turned on me, saying I'm doing it for my own sake. So I stopped buying. I have been washing clothes with my hands for the past five years. He has only done it ten times. I do more financial contributions and still do all the house chores, yet he complains that I'm dirty and not clean enough. On top of that, he nags me, saying I think I have arrived because I spend more.
When I refuse to spend further, he gets angry, saying I'm stingy and that one day I won't be able to do what I'm doing because I feel the knife is in my hand. I have told him to add a side hustle, even if it's driving Uber in the evening, but he said it's not meant for him. He likes office work, but the one he is doing is not helping. I pay for school fees, dishes, and everything else, even the bag of rice. I'm thinking of switching roles because I'm tired of being the man and wife at the same time.😙😙