12/02/2026
DAY 2 OF 7 DAYS PREPARATORY SERIES BEFORE RAMADAN MUBARAK
By HON ABUBAKAR IBRAHIM
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Most Compassionate.
My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, I sincerely hope you all reflected deeply on Day 1 of our preparatory series released yesterday. I trust it strengthened your intention and renewed your consciousness about the coming of Ramadan. How did you find it?
What lessons stood out for you? Please feel free to ask questions as we progress—this journey is for all of us, and together we prepare our homes for Ramadan Mubarak.
Today,
I HON ABUBAKAR IBRAHIM, I want us to reflect on a very sensitive and powerful subject: the duties of a Muslim husband and wife to one another and to their family during Ramadan.
Ramadan is not only individual worship; it is family worship. It is in the home that faith is nurtured, discipline is strengthened, and the next generation of believers is raised.
Allah says:
“O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones.”
(Qur’an 66:6)
Ramadan is one of the greatest opportunities to fulfill this divine command.
Below are five key points of discussion for every Muslim husband and wife.
1. Spiritual Leadership and Responsibility
A Muslim husband is the spiritual guardian of his home. Allah says:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women…”
(Qur’an 4:34)
During Ramadan, this means leading by example—encouraging prayer, waking the family for Suhoor, attending Taraweeh, organizing Qur’an recitation at home, and ensuring the home atmosphere reflects the sacredness of the month.
The wife, as the heart of the home, plays an equally powerful role. She supports and strengthens the spiritual environment, reminds her husband gently, and nurtures the children upon faith. Allah describes righteous women as:
“…devoutly obedient and guarding in the husband’s absence what Allah would have them guard.”
(Qur’an 4:34)
Both must see Ramadan as a joint mission toward Jannah.
2. Mercy, Kindness, and Emotional Support
Ramadan is not a time for anger and harshness. Hunger and fatigue should not become excuses for bad character.
Allah says:
“And live with them in kindness.”
(Qur’an 4:19)
A husband must be patient, gentle, and appreciative of his wife’s efforts—especially when she prepares meals and manages the home while fasting.
Likewise, the wife should show understanding toward her husband’s responsibilities and pressures. Allah describes marriage beautifully:
“They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them.”
(Qur’an 2:187)
Clothing protects, beautifies, and comforts. During Ramadan, spouses must protect one another emotionally and spiritually.
3. Shared Acts of Worship
One of the most beautiful Sunnahs of the Prophet ﷺ was worshiping together with his family. Allah commands:
“And enjoin prayer upon your family and be steadfast therein.”
(Qur’an 20:132)
A husband should not leave all religious training to the mosque; he must establish prayer within his home. A wife should encourage congregational prayer at home when possible, read Qur’an with the children, and create moments of dhikr and reflection.
Imagine a home where after Iftar, the family gathers to read even ten verses together—this builds unity and barakah.
4. Financial Responsibility and Generosity
Ramadan is the month of charity. A husband must ensure halal provision and prioritize feeding his family and giving Sadaqah.
Allah says:
“The men shall have a degree of responsibility over them.”
(Qur’an 2:228)
This responsibility includes financial care, especially in Ramadan when expenses may increase.
The wife also participates in charity within her capacity. The Qur’an praises believing men and women together:
“Indeed, the Muslim men and Muslim women… the charitable men and charitable women… Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a great reward.”
(Qur’an 33:35)
Let the family give together—even small amounts build a culture of generosity.
5. Protecting the Home from Sin
Ramadan loses its value when the home is filled with backbiting, indecent media, arguments, or neglect of prayer.
Allah commands:
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze…” (24:30)
“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze…” (24:31)
Both husband and wife must guard modesty, speech, and conduct. Replace idle entertainment with beneficial reminders. Replace gossip with Qur’an. Replace anger with forgiveness.
Remember: children learn Ramadan not from lectures, but from what they see in their parents.
Final Reflection
My dear brothers and sisters, Ramadan is not just about fasting from dawn to sunset. It is about building a righteous home that reflects obedience to Allah. A husband who leads with mercy and a wife who supports with wisdom create a household that angels visit.
I HON ABUBAKAR IBRAHIM, I urge every Muslim husband and wife: let this Ramadan transform not just your stomachs, but your marriages, your parenting, and your homes.
We continue tomorrow with Day 3, In sha Allah.
And again, feel free to ask questions as we progress in this blessed journey toward Ramadan Mubarak.
*MC AKPALA TV*
