08/08/2021
The scarcity mindset will make you a hoarder of j***y clients. I'm in no way poking fun of this mental illness, but rather painting a picture. Please follow me on this one.
The same way a hoarder collects and keeps items they feel they need, as a VA, you do the same when you hold on to clients who do not serve you.
I'm not sure where to begin. You have clients who treat you badly, pay terribly, or do not pay at all. Some of them will swindle you, others will convince you to do things you do not want to do. It's one big pile of mess.
Consequently, you find yourself trying to hold on to them because you feel like you need them. "This is all I've got right now. Bread and butter." Blah blah blah. Scarcity!
Eliminate this thinking. You won't have room to grow if you're stuck with all the old junk, even if you're a minimalist. You won't have room for a new sofa if you don't get rid of the old, uncomfortable one. Let 'em ALL go!
You find someone on Upwork who wants you to contact them outside the platform. "What should I do?" you ask yourself. "I'm new to all of this and need clients. Perhaps I should play along."
The answer is absolutely NO, NO, and NO! The scarcity mentality makes you think you'll lose them and then you'll have no client. That's a negative.
You'll only risk putting yourself in a situation where you're either sucker punched or something far worse. Let them go.
Look, if they can't communicate with you over Upwork or whatever platform you found them on initially, move on. It's not worth your time.
This isn't applicable once a relationship has developed, but I'm talking about when you first contact them or begin working with them.
Upon completing your first solid project with them, you can find some leniency, but you should always be cautious.
Know your worth and value yourself. Don't lower your standards because you feel that you can't find anything better. You will! Have faith. Take a leap of faith. Invest more into marketing campaigns. Be selective! Stay positive. Sometimes you just have to hear this stuff. Say this whole paragraph to yourself every day if you need to.
The things I just said apply to all relationships. That includes love life, friendships, etc. So get that etched in your brain and heart: "I am somebody, I deserve better, and something good will come along!"
There's an abundance out there. Good ones are ripe for the taking. Just take a hard pass on the bad apples.
Stay golden! ๐
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