24/01/2026
A dad with the patience of ADHD and a son with AuDHD, sitting still, tolerating sounds, and unfamiliar sensations?
That’s already a LOT to manage.
HOW WE DID IT (STEP-BY-STEP):
1️⃣ Visual First
Before anything else, we showed him a photo of a boy his age with a haircut.
We asked gently: “Do you like this haircut?”
When he smiled and said YES, we followed his lead.
2️⃣ Model the Behavior
Next, we showed him a video of another child calmly getting a haircut.
We pointed out: “He’s doing a good job cooperating.”
3️⃣ Invite, Don’t Force
We asked: “Are you willing to cooperate so you can get the haircut you like?”
When he said YES, that consent mattered.
4️⃣ Validate the Discomfort
The clipper sound and sensation were still uncomfortable; and that’s okay.
We acknowledged it instead of dismissing it.
5️⃣ Celebrate Effort, Not Perfection
He tried. He regulated. He stayed.
And that effort? We’re SO proud of him.
6️⃣ End with Confidence
He finished the haircut happy, smiling, and feeling good about how he looks; and that’s a win worth celebrating. 🥹✨
Progress isn’t about removing discomfort.
It’s about supporting our kids as they learn to face it safely; at their own pace.
To parents walking the same road:
You’re not failing. You’re learning. And so is your child. 💙
- Spectrum Duo Diaries
