27/10/2024
*The Right Way To Show Concern For Someone 🌼*
Stop asking, _“What’s wrong?”_
When you ask this, you’re subtly implying that something is wrong with the person or their actions.
As a result, most people instinctively get defensive and respond with, “Nothing!” or “I’m fine!”
They may feel that you’re labeling their emotions as “wrong” or problematic, which can make them reluctant to open up.
Instead, try asking, _“How are you feeling?”_
This question is gentle and non-judgmental, encouraging them to share without feeling like they’re being judged.
Similarly, rather than asking, _“Why are you so quiet?”_ or _“Why do you look sad?”_ — phrases that can make a person feel like they have to justify their emotions —
Try saying, _“I notice you’re being quiet.”_
When you begin with “Why,” it often puts people on the defensive, making them feel they have to explain themselves.
But starting with “I notice” shifts the focus onto your own observation rather than placing pressure on them.
This wording is softer and allows the person to feel acknowledged rather than interrogated, making them more likely to open up naturally.
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