03/29/2026
I’m curious—have you ever noticed this in your own life?
What I learned about love and losing myself
I didn’t notice it at first. Falling in love felt easy—natural, even beautiful. Late nights talking. Evenings out. A glass of wine. Making space for someone I love.
Gradually, I started letting go of the routines that once gave me calm and comfort. But it didn’t feel like loss. It felt like connection.
Slowly, and without realizing it, I gave up the things that kept me steady. My sleep suffered first. Then my body. Then everything else followed.
What came next wasn’t pretty. I hit a brick wall—mentally and physically. I quit a high-stress job where I felt undervalued. One health issue after another followed, and I watched quietly as parts of my life began to unravel.
More than once, it felt like our relationship might not survive who we were. But we didn’t walk away.
We stayed together. And more importantly—I changed.
Yes—not him. This was mine to work on.
I was forced to see something I had missed for years: I wasn’t losing myself because of love. I was losing myself because I didn’t know how to stay grounded—how to stay steady in myself.
That realization changed everything.
Today, we’re still here. Still in love. But it looks different now—steadier, more honest, more sustainable.
He meets me in his own way, and I meet him in mine—and somehow, it works.
It wasn’t easy. I won’t pretend it was. But I wouldn’t trade who I’ve become.
I’m still learning. Still adjusting. Still working on something as simple—and as hard—as sleep.
But I know this now:
Love didn’t break me.
It showed me where I needed to grow.