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02/12/2026

Aloha, y’all! This profile was created to be my professional presence on Facebook. You’ll notice I hardly post on it. I invite you to connect with me on my personal Facebook profile. Just look up Kawika Maszak. I’ll accept your friend request. Mahalo!

A good tomatillo sauce takes hours, but it’s worth it. Don’t ask me who’s gonna eat it all.
11/09/2025

A good tomatillo sauce takes hours, but it’s worth it. Don’t ask me who’s gonna eat it all.

What better way to spend the weekend than up in Austin celebrating my sister’s birthday? Amongst friends and family, we ...
09/07/2025

What better way to spend the weekend than up in Austin celebrating my sister’s birthday? Amongst friends and family, we listened to live music under the stars. Absolute perfection!

“How about hand-pulled noodles?” Yes, Kyra! Take us there. The absolute best part of my trip to Austin — second only to ...
08/22/2025

“How about hand-pulled noodles?” Yes, Kyra! Take us there. The absolute best part of my trip to Austin — second only to gobbling them up with this cherished friend.

The 26 minutes of actual enjoyable twilight before Houston turns into a giant convention oven.
04/11/2025

The 26 minutes of actual enjoyable twilight before Houston turns into a giant convention oven.

Mike was fond of collecting metal garden decorations. One day, a long time ago, we came across and artist who created wh...
03/24/2025

Mike was fond of collecting metal garden decorations. One day, a long time ago, we came across and artist who created whimsical creatures from recycled metal scrap. There used to be a dancing rabbit, but, alas, it rusted away. The flying pig looks rather pathetic in the light of day, but she maintains her magic in the twilight.

Let them scoff at your ungainly appearance. I will slice you ever so thin with a mandolin, and introduce you to a dressi...
03/22/2025

Let them scoff at your ungainly appearance. I will slice you ever so thin with a mandolin, and introduce you to a dressing with Gorgonzola and walnuts. Your essence of pepper and licorice will dance upon my tastebuds. You’ll be the belle of the ball. Cinderella ain’t got nuthin’ on you.

All day long I thought about the baked potato I planned to make for dinner, topped with chives growing outside on my pat...
03/20/2025

All day long I thought about the baked potato I planned to make for dinner, topped with chives growing outside on my patio. But how could I disturb this beauty?

As of 8:45 am here in the Houston area. We’ve had no power since about 5:30 am. Time for the worst of it. Beryl is quick...
07/08/2024

As of 8:45 am here in the Houston area. We’ve had no power since about 5:30 am.

Time for the worst of it. Beryl is quickly losing strength without water to fuel its energy. Sustained winds are only about 65mph with gusts up to 85mph. I positioned what's left of the eye in the crosshairs. The blue dot is me in Pearland. We're lined up for the inner arm, which is the most intense.

Mike is 20 miles away in a hospital at the Houston Medical Center. There’s no safer place for him to be.

There is no such thing as too many fresh vegetables when making an Asian stir fry. 👌
05/18/2024

There is no such thing as too many fresh vegetables when making an Asian stir fry. 👌

As I search for ways to contemplate uncertainty, nature offers me an optimistic perspective. Hope can bloom, even in the...
12/05/2023

As I search for ways to contemplate uncertainty, nature offers me an optimistic perspective. Hope can bloom, even in the midst of my December gloom.

09/23/2023

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” A wise observation by Henry Ford.

Call it a goal or a path. It’s where you want to go — but you’ll lose direction quickly when an obstacle captures your attention.

You can’t ignore an obstacle, of course. You can, however, easily let it overwhelm you. Have you ever noticed how obstacles crop up like mushrooms once you encounter one?

There is a psychological phenomenon that explains why we suddenly notice or experience something — say, an obstacle — more frequently after it initially catches our attention. This is called the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon, also known as frequency illusion or recency illusion.

The Baader-Meinhof phenomenon occurs when our mind notices a stimulus more often after being introduced to or becoming aware of it. For example, you learn a new word and suddenly hear it used everywhere. Or you buy a car in a particular color and then start seeing that car model and color all over the roads.

This happens because our brains are wired to filter out most of the sensory stimuli around us. We only notice or pay attention to a small fraction of information. Encountering an obstacle grabs our attention and breaks into that selective filter, priming our brain to be aware of it. So, your mind starts noticing it more, even if the actual frequency of the stimulus hasn’t changed. And your mind will find associated things. Cue the mushrooms.

Your mind is now primed to be on the lookout for obstacles. You’re not watching where you’re going. Your mindset shifts from barely registering the obstacle to being hyper-focused on it. The obstacle gains an outsized presence in your thoughts and landscape perception. This emphasis and heightened sensitivity to its existence is the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon at work.

While obstacles may feel suddenly omnipresent, this illusion of frequency is a helpful feature in our personal operating software — not a bug. It brings the obstacle into clear view so we can address it with clarity and reframe it.

Obstacles are perspective. Let them cast a shadow, but keep your eye on the path.

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