12/16/2025
I (28F) work for a company of around 50 employees. Recently a girl was hired who was in the same grade as me in highschool. She did not bully me or anyone else in any which way, but was definitely higher on the social hierarchy than me, and was one of those people who then essentially ignored everyone below her. Kind of looking visibly annoyed when paired with you for an assignment etc. I never liked her because of this because although it’s not bullying, it still makes you a teenage a__hole (in my opinion). When she joined I knew I just needed to be an adult and a professional and not bring this dislike forward. I treated her completely normally, was particularly friendly and of course it was known we went to high school together. However soon, after a few weeks, it became apparent to me that she had been repeatedly telling our coworkers that I was “soooo different” to how I used to be at school. If asked to go in to detail, she would say that I used to be really shy and quiet. I fully understand that she did not know me, and that may have been her perception of me. But I am exactly the same person as I was then (update: of course having matured and changed slightly, but no dramatic changes), if you knew me you’d know that. I wouldn’t mind if she’d said this once as a “huh, I guess she’s more extroverted that I thought". But she keeps repeating it to everyone who will hear. To me at this point, based on what I’ve been told by coworkers, I feel like she’s trying to make the point that I wasn’t cool, and she’s using coded language to imply that without actually saying it. I pulled her to one side and I asked her why she was making so many comments about how I’d changed, when she didn’t know me in the first place and I would appreciate it if she would stop. She said that i’m overreacting, and that although she...