12/16/2025
Just over a year ago I (35f) was engaged and totally in love. However, a few days before the wedding, he (42M) dramatically called the whole thing off. This was after I asked if we could have some therapy as I was finding some of his behaviours increasingly disrespectful, despite my attempts to tackle it. But he responded by flipping out and sent all the cancellations to guests without even consulting me and lots of other unkind and over the top behaviour which I felt was really unnecessary and really hurt me. I was totally devastated and tried to make him come round but he wouldn't, so eventually I stopped trying and just focussed on rebuilding my life without him. I was then shocked and to be honest, pretty gutted, when just three months after our break up, he was engaged to someone new and just another three months after that, married to her. I know for sure that they didn't know each other before we broke up, so it was not because they were having an affair. I think it was just a rebound thing and because he really wants to have a family asap, he just went for it. It so happens that I know her (35f) vaguely from a couple years ago and don't think very highly of her. She was often really miserable and would bring the happy energy of a room down as soon as she walked in. She was highly defensive, taking almost anything anyone says to her, no matter how well intentioned, in the wrong way. So despite us being the same age and in the same community, I never bothered to befriend her as she was just not my sort of person. She seemed to have a particular dislike of me, and made a couple of passive aggressive comments towards me. I don't know what spurred it but didn't care enough to pull her up on it. I assumed she was just a miserable in herself, so wasn't something to take too personally. I never gave her another thought until a couple...