06/23/2026
AITAH for telling my husband he is not my life?
I (F 28) have always been very family oriented. Everyone in my family and extended family lives nearby, at most an hour away. I am an only child and planned to always live near my parents too.
When I started dating my husband, around 8 years back, I told him all of this. Basically that I want to live near my family my whole life. He agreed to it. He moved away from his family (8hour drive) to live with me near mine.
But 3 years after marriage, he says he wants to move. To a city with better work opportunities. I agree work opportunities are not great here. But cost of living is pretty low too. And since we don't plan to have children, our salaries are more than sufficient for a good life.
I reminded him of his promise. He was mad I am still prioritizing my family over him. I told him he knew this about me, I can't ask 100s of people to move elsewhere and I don't want to see them only at weddings. He told me he is my partner and despite anything else, I should be prioritizing him. I told him as much as I loved him, he is one among many people I love. He is a part of my life, not my whole life. I can't leave my family and life here.
He got upset at that and left the conversation. He is not talking to me now. When I told my friend, she said I was an AH to tell him like that...