08/26/2026
When people ask me “HOW Natalie?”
most of the time what they expect to hear about is the rigid, super complex or elaborate systems I have in place to keep everything in order and under control.
Here’s the thing, I have spent my entire adulthood studying and developing systems.
What motherhood taught me is that a system is only as good as it’s flexibility to evolve under ever changing circumstances.
And more importantly, MY flexibility to pivot in real time when things don’t go according to plan.
And building a business and stewarding a home, a marriage, and the demands of motherhood,
the piece that was actually out of order in my life wasn’t the systems.
I had those.
It was the way I was showing up in them.
It was the way I would spiral in frustration every time someone showed up late or the kids would not so easily cooperate with our designated nap times.
It’s the way I would struggle being fully present with my kids or during a spontaneous phone call with a friend because no matter how much i planned, prepared and organized, one thing out of place in my system would send me spiraling into chronic overwhelm
The BIGGEST shift in creating a more pleasant and productive life forced me to acknowledge that hyper productivity is not the purpose of systems in my life.
Peace is.
Joy is.
Order is.
Creativity is.
Fruitfulness is.
And while optimizing my time is all fun and games, it was costing me the intimacy, the freedom, & the connection that requires the kind of spaciousness in your day that allows for spontaneity.
My systems were broken not because they couldn’t work, but because they were solving for the wrong problem.
… i have so much more to say but I’ll have to make a part 2. Anyone other entrepreneurial moms learning this lesson lately?