11/14/2022
TURN YOUR TRAUMA INTO GOLD! 🌟🔥
On the other side of trauma, there is life. When you’ve shown up and done the work there is a payoff. And there are a million people on social media promising to show you how to live the life of your dreams, to have money and live a luxurious life. You’ve all seen them.
The problem is that most of those people don’t know what they’re talking about because they’re not actually living that life themselves. I’m here to show something new, and I know what I’m talking about, not just because I’m a doctor, but because I am living all of this myself. I’ve been where you are and I’ve completely transformed my life.
Today I’m going to share 3 things that you MUST have in order to really, finally experience your life on a whole new, amazing level…and it’s not even a new level, it’s like a whole new plane, really.
This is important because you’ve already made it through the hard times and you have a whole different set of values…and interestingly, this can feel like a lonely, and sometimes frustrating place to be when we see all that is out there trying to get our attention and gain our trust.
The truth is that once you know what is really important, and understand all that is at stake and how precious the days of your life are, it’s really hard to pretend to be satisfied with life the way that it is.
And yet, you feel stuck. Stuck in the “B” life you’ve settled for.
I know this place very well. At one time, when you were in the midst of your trauma, trying to process and heal, pretty much anything looked better than where you were at. You just wanted to get to the other side, to stop feeling the way you were feeling, and to finally be happy, please!
And when you got there, it felt calm and better, but then after a while it became really easy to feel bored and frustrated with life.
There’s a nagging feeling inside that says that you should be doing something, that this current life is not enough, maybe there’s even a hunger to move deeper inside, to explore desires and ideas that you never had before, or maybe that have been there for a long time but were dismissed as illogical or implausible.
You feel it in your gut, and maybe the chest and throat. Maybe it makes you want to roar…or scream….or maybe just…do it!!
This is how you know that it is time. And by that I mean that it is time to LAVISH up. I’m not talking about luxury and opulence, about faking it until you make it, or pretending to be someone that you are not. Lavish, as a verb, an action, is about how you show up for your life.
To lavish something is to bestow generous amounts of time, energy, praise, attention, and yes, even money on something or someone. It’s about abundance in ways that have no ceilings.
For me, lavishing up really hit home for me when I got the vision for my life that existed without all of the preconceived limitations, doubts, and boxed-in societal norms. I was tired of all of the things I “should” do with my life, all of the algorithms of success that were based on what other people had discovered for themselves but never seemed to work for anyone else.
Lavishing up for me was finally saying “Hey, wait a minute! I am already everything, there is nothing that I don’t have access to, and that includes having a life that is extraordinarily amazing. I know who I am, and I’m totally signed up for knowing myself even more, even deeper.
I’ve paid my dues, I’ve lived through the hard times, the crappy times, I know there is more and I know that no one is coming to save me. This is up to me. This is my creation. And I am a force of Nature, so it is time to lavish up Girl!”
And it’s the same for you.
You are a high performing woman. You’ve been through it, and lavishing up allows you to fully embody your power and to live a meaningful, deeply fulfilling life completely outside of anything that has happened in the past, and totally and definitively inside of your Self.
Here’s what I mean: There is actually a framework for living a fiercely amazing life on the other side of trauma. I know because I created it, and because I feel like this is absolutely the most important thing you may ever do for yourself, I’m going to help you start to get the vision for this right now. And this is NOT going to be a bunch of theory and philosophy because the truth is that I came up with this framework after 14 years of dealing with and healing my own trauma…and 20 years of helping other people heal from theirs.
As a medical doctor, a wife, a mother, a successful business owner, I looked like I had it all on the outside, but the reality was that on the inside I was not only miserable, I was suffering deeply. I wasn’t living just a mediocre “B” life, I was living a poor life.
I was the kind of person that could accomplish just about anything I put my mind to, but no matter what I achieved, how many degrees I earned, or the successes I experienced, I was on a constant search for the next thing that was going to fulfill me. The problem was, that nothing fulfilled me, nothing filled the void inside of me.
I was the mother to three beautiful children, which, after years of infertility, was an experience that I never thought I was going to have. But when my suffering began to rob me of the life I wanted with my kids…I knew it was time to do something about it. I didn’t really know what that meant, but I knew I had to do something or not only was I going to miss out on these irreplaceable years with my children, but I knew for certain that my soul was going to die. I’m willing to bet that you’ve felt that same feeling.
So there are 3 things that you have got to master. I want you to get the best vision of something amazing and new for yourself, so I am going to pose these three things as questions. Here we go.
First, what would life look like, what would it feel like if:
You loved yourself unconditionally? Think about it. If you accepted every part of yourself with gratitude and love, even the parts that annoy you, that frustrate you, that you wish were different, how would that change the experience of life?
For me, one of those big parts was the way that I over-analyze everything. This is one aspect of my personality that frustrates the heck out of me…and my husband. And I mean to the point that I become paralyzed and unable to make a decision because I’m afraid I’m going to make the wrong choice.
I have spent years making myself wrong for this and trying to change myself. But, when I stepped back and saw that aspect of myself for what it is, the part of me that is trying to keep me safe, the part of myself that served me very, very loyally and with love for my entire childhood during the time that I was being abused, I had a whole new appreciation for this actually really cool gift I have.
I could then not only accept it, when it shows up now I kinda smile and give it a little head nod, and then I can let it know that I’ve got this and I don’t need her to keep me safe today.
And what that does is release the resistance, which is what keeps us stuck and exhausted.
So yeah, it’s loving yourself unconditionally, AND it’s more than that. Unconditionally loving yourself is the gateway to the gold.
I’m talking about meeting and understanding your Higher Self, seeing yourself as others see you, understanding that YOU are a Divine, powerful creator, a perfect unique fractal of God. And in that, it is time to learn to be completely in love with yourself before and above anything and anyone else. I’m talking about being the love of your own life.
I remember when I realized that I actually loved myself. I was driving down the highway blaring the song “Halo” by Beyonce and singing along at the top of my lungs. All of a sudden I realized that I was singing the song to myself, and I felt so much love for myself in that moment that I literally started crying, and laughing, because I was like “Oh my God, I so love myself!” Which sounded really weird and strange, and pretty dang cool too.
I mean, come on! How would life change if you felt that way about yourself? If all of that love was available to you 24/7 because it is you?
Second question: What would life look like if you really had everything that you truly desired? How would it feel to actually know what you truly desired with absolute clarity and specificity? This goes far beyond material desires, into the realm of creating the relationships that feed and nourish you, creating the impact in the world that you want to have, and understanding the energetic principles of living in possibility, and then consciously directing your energy into the form of your dreams.
These are things that so few people understand, yet it seems like everyone is talking about “manifestation” and the power of positive thinking. I’m going to tell you for sure that this is NOT what I’m talking about.
We all know so many people that have all the money they could ever want, but are completely miserable. Money does not equal abundance. So an understanding of true abundance, including but far beyond money, is not only what you have to understand, but actually feel and experience in your life.
To do this you’ve got to transform your lack mindset and transmute the unworthiness you feel about your life and affairs, your relationships, and your spirit (aka yourself). This includes uncovering and transmuting limiting beliefs and blind spots. When I said earlier that I was living a “poor” life, this is what I was talking about.
I was a successful doctor, living in a beautiful home in California, driving a fancy car, with plenty of money in the bank, but I was poor in my mind, in my thoughts, and in my relationships. I was living in fear of what people thought of me, of not measuring up, of failing, of running out of money even. I was putting so much energy into the fears and limiting beliefs about who I was and was not, things I adopted years ago as truth because of the things I had experienced in my young life.
If I compared myself to the majority of the people living in the world, I was rich, but I was spiritually and energetically poor. I could feign gratitude but I was not present to the reality of my life. When my eyes, heart, and mind opened to the understanding of the lavish, rich abundance that I already possess and is all around me, everything began to shift.
I saw how my life got this way and how I created all of it. Then I realized that if I created all of it, then I could certainly create more of it…but this time I was wide awake to what I wanted, who I was, and how to do it on purpose.
What would life look like if you could do that too?
Imagine letting go of the limiting beliefs and blind spots that are keeping you stuck. How much more time and energy and joy could be experienced if you stopped the ceaseless striving that is exhausting you?
I mean, the ROI on this is horrible people! What would it feel like to experience life from a place of creation, as the cause, rather than the effect? This would change EVERYTHING!
Third question: what do you hold valuable? I mean REALLY hold valuable? If you’ve got kids, you’re probably automatically saying “my kids,” which is great, but what does that mean? Your kids are valuable, totally, and so what is it that you value about them? Is it time with them, teaching them, taking them places, all of the above? Is it freedom, is it connection, is it presence? Do you value success, impact, money, creativity, adventure, being well-known?
Here’s the thing, these are all the superficial, or surface things, that are actually the tip of the iceberg of where your soul wants to lead you. If we were to get on the phone and have a conversation, I could show you how much deeper this is for you.
What if you could tap into the energy and wisdom of everything you have already experienced, all of your successes and achievements, your accomplishments and failures, the good, the bad, the beautiful, and the ugly, and recycle it all into something BIGGER and more beautiful for your life and for the world?
What would you envision for yourself if you knew that you already have everything that you could ever need? When I realized this for myself, that I didn’t need another degree, training, certificate, area of expertise, but that I trusted that the life I have already lived was bountiful f***r for everything that I actually really wanted to create and experience in my life, I was like HALLELUJAH!!
This meant that I had so much more free time, and so much less striving because I could stop focusing on finding my purpose and source outside of myself. I was already EVERYTHING!
When you start to get the vision for a life that is beyond where you are now, beyond the past, beyond what you have previously thought was possible, and taking action to actually make it happen…this is what it means to LAVISH up.
And just for a bonus, let’s throw into that vision you are creating what it would look like if:
-Your intuition was a superpower that you trusted and actually knew how to use?
-You allowed your deepest desires to surface and you lived in total integrity with yourself, knowing that you were empowering other people just by how you live life?
-You experienced true freedom in your life for the first time?
-What if you could recognize on the drop of a hat where you are giving your power away, and could immediately move into sovereignty and grace?
-You were continuously deepening and nurturing your spirituality and had an absolute commitment to knowing your Self?
-You could detox physically and emotionally everything that was no longer serving you, all those cellular remnants of the past, and bring the body and mind into alignment for the realization of your ultimate goals?
Girl, if you could do all of this, then you would have it going on!!
Here’s the best part: you CAN do all of this! You CAN have an amazing life no matter what happened in the past, in fact it's your birthright, just for showing up to this life...but only if you CHOOSE it.
The next thing I always hear is “tell me what to do.”
If this is speaking to your soul, it’s time to take action.
If you want me to show you how, click this link: https://bit.ly/drerinmartin
We’re waiting for you.
With love,
Dr. Erin 👑
