02/15/2022
I'm not a photographer, I'm a therapist.
Normal people don't like to be photographed. I hear a myriad of things during a photoshoot...
-"I hate my hair"
-"I hate the way my nose looks"
-"ugh, look at my eye"
As a photographer is rough, you hear alot of people tell you "I hate that photo", and honestly, its easy to take it personally, but they don't hate the photo, they hate how they look in the photo.
I've been doing portraits for 14 years-ish, and I've heard it all. One day, years ago, I was taking a young ladys portrait and she said the usual comment of "ugh, I hate how you look", and without thinking I just blurted out "are you crazy, you're gorgeous!". My first thought was "oh God, shes going to totally take that the wrong way", but she turned to me and said "You think?". So I pointed out to her all the technical aspects of why she was so beautiful, the pop of color in her eyes, her high cheek bones, the perfect wave to her hair, how her smile was soft and genuine. I simply told her all the reasons why I loved the photo I had taken, and she looked again, and it sank it. "Lets try another one" she said, and I could see her start to loosen the grip she had on her own self image. I would add in a few compliments between posing suggestions, and by the end of the shoot, she loved the images she saw, and she left that shoot with a slightly better self image.
That's my job. The technical aspects of a photoshoot are easy for me now, light placement, lens selection, wireless tethering, I can do those in my sleep. The challenge is instantaneously upon meeting each new model, deciphering what their particular mental image issues are, and challenging those by reaffirming through positive reinforcement how they are beautiful, that they in fact have a perfect smile, their eyes are amazing, and they are not the person they think they see in images.