13/10/2026
Everyone online is winning. Except you.
A mate's in Bali. A former colleague has "humbly announced" a promotion. Someone in your industry is on stage again, lanyard on, looking like they've never had a bad quarter.
Meanwhile you've got two overdue invoices and a proposal on its fourth rewrite.
You're comparing the 1% of their life they chose to post with 100% of yours. Every dull Tuesday you've ever had, up against none of theirs.
Psychologists Thomas Gilovich and Ed O'Brien found most people believe others have more friends and go to more parties than they do. The maths says most of us can't be below average. We believe it anyway.
Their fix surprised me. People who mapped out an ordinary hour-by-hour day for someone they envied came away feeling less envious.
So I don't do social media detoxes. All that would happen is that I'd make some pretentious announcement on social media, and I'd come back to the same feed with the same brain two weeks later.
Nothing would be different.
I run the Tuesday test instead. Assume that their day is just as dull as mine. 9am, inbox. 11am, chasing a late payment. 2pm, a refund request. 4pm, wondering where the margin went.
Thirty seconds in on this fanasty and the envy shrinks.
My actual Tuesday wasn't spent showing anyone how much more interesting I am than them. It was spent on correcting invoices that I made mistakes on - that mean I'll have a cashflow problem this month.
Jealous yet?